Fabisi Award at the 69th Cannes International Film Festival in 2016
29th European Film Awards 2016 - Best Picture, Best Actor, Actress, Best Director, Screenwriter
2017 89th Academy Awards - Best Foreign Language Film Nomination
My biggest feeling after watching this movie is: No wonder the Germans create comics like "Father and Son" that are humorous but warm enough to make you cry. It really has a national tradition and a mass basis.
"There are some absurd and funny plots in the Germans who have always given people a strict stereotype, which will seem a little weird and neurotic",
Germans are famous for their rationality, but underneath rationality is the rush of emotion. This film fully demonstrates the other side of Germans who have been labelled: humorous and warm, so it has touched countless audiences.
Just as the film critic said: Director Ade used his kung fu in characterization and character relationship. The script is solid and vivid, and the actors' performance skills are profound. This 162-minute film is even and properly supported.
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In this film, the director designed a lot of "departures":
The departure of a student, the divorce of a parent, the death of a dog, a Romanian oil worker at risk of dismissal, the grandmother's funeral, and more.
Children stick to their parents when they are young, and parents stick to their children when they grow up. Time is countdown. When children start a new life, their parents are moving forward in the opposite direction. One day, they completely retired, passed away, dissipated, and only appeared in a dream, a familiar voice, or a similar-looking back on the street...
The German female director said: "I made films very slowly. I thought about this story for five years, filmed it for another year, and then cut it for another year and a half, during which I had two children. I guess I will make more films in my lifetime. Four or five movies."
Although the progress of the movie is slow, there is no nonsense or failure. There are humorous and memorable humor everywhere, as well as the sad tears behind the humor.
For example, when grandma said, "Why don't you let this dog be euthanized?" My father immediately responded, "Didn't I also let you be euthanized?"
The old urchin's father went directly to his daughter's stepfather's house to meet his daughter with the funeral makeup performed;
The father played a prank and handcuffed himself and his daughter together and couldn't find the key. In desperation, the daughter had to take her father to see the client;
At grandma's funeral, the staff closed the coffin and didn't forget to put grandma's pillow towel inside. This small scene reminded me of the young master played by Andy Lau in "Sister Peach", who carefully helped her put the long johns on after the death of the servant, Sister Peach. proper;
Dressed in black, with a bad heart, the tired father finally collapsed on the grass, gasping for breath, like an omen;
All of this is accumulated, gentle and rational, full of contemplation, simmering in a small fire, gloomy and sorrowful, in each funny scene, the sadness is like a fog surrounding, lingering, you will not think this is Watching a movie, this is real life.
There are details everywhere in the film. The female director is also a professional woman herself, and all kinds of small workplace designs are easy to come by:
When you move the sofa, you accidentally press on your toenails, and your feet hurt and you will be stinky and step on stilettos;
Reluctantly wear stilettos to see clients, and can only sit on the toilet and cry for a while;
In a hurry to give a speech to a major client, but accidentally soiled the white shirt, temporarily asked a female colleague to change clothes;
Under the huge work pressure, there is no expression every day, constipation, and rarely smile;
No time to cook in the kitchen, no time to fall in love;
Home is just a place to sleep;
Always sleepless, always carrying a big briefcase;
always on the phone
Going home is just to continue working in another place, continue to make plans on the computer, and continue to make calls;
In addition to accompany customers, but also accompany the wife of important customers to go shopping;
The client asked if he would like to go for a drink after the dinner party. In order to improve the relationship and finish the project, he was exhausted to death, so he must go;
Squeezed by the boss, always use higher salaries and positions as carrots to attract you to continue to work hard;
Meet all kinds of wonderful customers;
In order to increase the cohesion of the bullshit team, hollow out some novel and funny activity ideas (such as the nude party in the movie) to engage in team building;
Use a fork to zip up the back of the skirt - every time you wear a skirt that requires a back zipper, you can't wait to have a maid to serve you.
Of course, the film tries to give an answer and a conclusion, but it seems a little pale. Maybe the director himself has not found the answer, so the father tries to teach his daughter happiness, but he makes her daughter feel like a failure all his life, so it is unconvincing:
Neither the daughter nor the mother could appreciate the father's anachronistic humor, and the mother eventually remarried a man who seemed to be more successful and social.
His daughter is far away from him and rarely comes back to see him, so that after living alone, his dog died. Because he missed his daughter, he had to make a chance encounter with her, hoping to have the opportunity to take care of her and bring her happiness.
But he doesn't know his adult daughter at all. He still likes to call her daughter "little noodles", and the birthday gift for her 30-year-old daughter is "cheese wipes" - where does a workaholic daughter have time to cook?
Father asks daughter is she "happy", does she live like a person? The daughter thinks these are just gorgeous topics;
He tried to ask his daughter to persuade the client not to dismiss the Romanian oil workers who were at risk of dismissal due to neglect of safety operations, but one of his daughter's job contents was to help the client to lay off employees as cheaply and risky as possible.
He reassured the workers to maintain a sense of humour in front of life, but his daughter laughed at the fact that even the fact that a worker lost his job would be frightened to tears. How about humor?
He pretended to be the embassy to attend the party, and arranged for his daughter to sing on his own initiative. In desperation, her daughter had to sing a song together. Of course, at this time, her daughter gradually entered the play and sang her true feelings. The passion at that moment was real. But after singing, she really couldn't go on and left in a hurry—there was still a lot of work waiting for her. How could this be understood by a father who has retired and was saddened by the passing of his beloved dog, and who has always paid attention to humor?
The director said: "Our parents have a unique ability to humiliate us, even in their most naive behavior, without knowing how they did it. In addition, they have an obsession with wanting us to be happy. Happiness is this It's actually totally overrated. We might be happier if they hadn't been so worried."
A good work can arouse the participation of the audience. The audience sheds their own tears in the stories of others. A good movie viewing experience is completed by the director and the audience together.
The conflict between the workaholic daughter and the old urchin father:
Father does not understand:
It's rare for my daughter to come home, why are there so many calls to make?
Assuming that the director understands the Enneagram, I would like to explore the conflict between the father and daughter in this film from the perspective of the Enneagram:
The father in this film is very old and can be basically determined to be a cute and happy old urchin No. 7. Because the daughter is still young, the behavior in this film is like a very typical successful person. Doer No. 3, but in the end is it? A No. 3 who is born to pursue the experience of success and winning, or because of being pushed by life, "being" No. 3, because there is no more background information can not be finalized, but only as far as this film is concerned, regardless of clothing, hairstyle, Appearance such as makeup (standard professional attire) or words and deeds (simple, strong and decisive), thinking (everything revolves around work, clients, bosses), boyfriend is a colleague (the circle is narrow, only work in life), etc., including the last job-hopping After leaving McKinsey and going to Singapore for two years, the career development planning is completely work-centered, which is a typical No. 3.
The daughter's only entertainment is to have dinner and chat with her girlfriends on weekends. Even if she is annoyed, she is helpless and tolerant of her father's various kinds of helplessness and tolerance. She has almost no obvious personal interests and hobbies.
Both 3 and 7 are energetic, but the release direction of the two is completely different. For example, at a nude party, everyone chooses to be really naked, but No. 7 will choose to play an animal and wear a giant doll costume - because the animals are all naked hahaha.
Many fast-paced and demanding 3s are under a lot of pressure, and the complacent 7 can relieve the pressure of the 3, but this is a double-edged sword. No. feels out of place:
For example, father No. 7 thought the makeup at the funeral was funny and did not wash it off, but kept it until he went to see his ex-wife and daughter. The result did not bring the imaginary amuse, but only everyone's surprise - in the eyes of No. 7, too many people Lack of sense of humor haha, and the heartless pursuit of pleasure and excitement of the 7 will make the result-oriented 3 feel that he is not motivated enough, and it will become a conflict between these two personalities.
Just like in the dictionary of No. 3, happiness is never the first choice, and in the dictionary of No. 7, success is never the first choice.
If the father and daughter could understand this, maybe they wouldn't look at each other with their own standards of life, just like the daughter put on a funny hat at the end, but her face is still lifeless - because that's number 7 The daughter the father wanted was the little noodles he remembered, but it was not what the daughter No. 3 wanted.
The learning of the Enneagram allows us to look at ourselves and others more objectively, and to be more tolerant and understanding of our loved ones, the love they want to express behind their different personalities, find the true hero in each person, and learn to love ourselves, such as The song "greatest love of all" sings:
I believe the children are our future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children's laughter remind us how we used to be
Everybody searching for a hero
People need someone to look up to
I never found anyone to fulfill my needs
A lonely place to be
So I learned to depend on me
Chorus: Chorus
I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone's shadows
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I live as I believe
No matter what they take from me
They can't take away my dignity
Because the greatest love of all
Is happening to me I have the greatest love in my heart
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me the greatest love
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all
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