When the writer Mo Yan got on the Nobel Prize Podium, he deeply cherished his mother: Mother is the person I miss most at the moment.
A mother plays an irreplaceable role in the growth of a child's life. Having a good mother is definitely a great gift.
I finished watching the movie "Little Women" two days ago. This film is based on Louisa Alcott’s original work. It tells the life between four sisters in an ordinary family in Massachusetts during the Civil War. Although the four sisters have their own personalities, They are different, but each has great talents. The eldest sister Meg writes scripts and acts; the second daughter Joe can write; the third daughter Beth can play the piano well; the younger daughter Amy is good at drawing. The four sisters love each other, and the life of the family is full of warmth and happiness.
But the one that impressed me the most and touched me the most was the mother of four girls-Mrs. March. This kind, simple, kind, generous, and enlightened woman is a model for all mothers to learn.
01. Love each child with fairness and understanding
Home is the source of children's growth, and it is also the place where children first feel fairness and justice.
For parents with many children, it is not easy to treat each child fairly, but it is absolutely important.
In the film, the youngest daughter Amy burns the manuscript that Joe has written for many years. Joe is angry and heartache. After the two sisters scuffled for a while, Joe hid in the room and cried very sadly, vowing that he would never forgive his sister again.
In many people’s childhood memories, when there is a conflict between a younger sister and an older sister, even if it’s the younger sister’s fault, the most common thing parents say to us is: You are the older sister, you should let the younger sister.
But Mrs. March was obviously not like this. After learning of the conflict between the two sisters, Mrs. March comforted Joe:
"This is a great loss. You absolutely have the right to be angry. But please don't fall asleep with anger."
Mrs. March knows the hard work that Joe has put into these articles, so she understands her daughter's pain and tells Joe that she has a reason to be angry, but because she is worried that the child will not sleep well, she gently relieves her daughter not to fall asleep with anger.
British critic David Frost once said:
"When you have only one child, you are a parent; when you have two children, you are a referee."
The children’s father is not at home all the year round. Mrs. March is not only the mother of four daughters, but also a family referee. It is inevitable that the children will fight with each other and be awkward, but Mrs. March has to do everything when conflicts occur. Fair and just, teach children what is right and wrong, and give them love and respect.
In fact, when a child is respected from a young age, her pursuit of self-esteem, self-love and fairness will also penetrate into her bones.
Years later, when faced with a group of men discussing whether women should have the right to vote, what Joe said made all women excited:
Women should vote, not because they are kind, nor because they are angels, but because we are human beings and the people of this country.
The advent of the second child era announced the end of the one-child era. How to treat each child fairly and help them build self-esteem and self-confidence is worthy of every parent's thinking.
At the end of the story, Amy changed from the selfish and willful little girl at the beginning to a dignified, generous and charming girl, and Joe became a brave and independent new woman. This is obviously inseparable from Mrs. March's education.
2. Guide children to pursue the truth, goodness and beauty in their hearts
For mothers , cultivating a kind heart in their children is more important than anything else.
When the war broke out, and her father went to war outside, Mrs. March raised four children alone. The economy was not well-off. She even had to sell rags to subsidize her living. However, Mrs. March would still help her neighbors and take the children to do good deeds. Give them food to visit the sick child next door.
Mrs. March planted the seeds of kindness in the hearts of her daughters. In the process, the daughters also felt the joy of helping others, and thus reaped abundant spiritual wealth.
The educator Suhomlinsky once said:
Every moment, when you see your children, you also see yourself. When you educate your children, you are also educating yourself and testing your own personality.
The best education a mother can give to her child is to do it by herself.
Meg is the eldest of the four daughters, beautiful-looking, slender, but a little vain. Because the styles of the clothes for the party were not trendy enough, Meg was ridiculed and went home and sighed unhappily: It's so good to be enviable, and I can't help but like it.
Mrs. March did not criticize her daughter, but told Meg earnestly:
"If you feel that your value is only as an ornament, I am afraid that one day you will believe that you are really just like this. Time will corrode all the beauty on the surface. What time cannot eliminate is the beauty of your soul, your humor, and your Kindness and your moral courage. These are what I cherish in your heart."
A wise mother will guide her children to pay more attention to the heart instead of focusing on external glitz.
After learning that poor boy John was pursuing Meg, Joe thought that John and his sister did not match, Mrs. March said something like this:
"I would rather Meg marry for love and become the wife of the poor than to lose her self-esteem."
Under the education of her mother, Meg was calm, virtuous, kind and full of heart, and eventually became a happy and confident wife, a responsible mother, and a very happy family life.
However, in real life, how many mothers only value money and material wealth, even in order to ask for a high betrothal gift, do not hesitate to ruin their daughter's happiness?
Some people say that any outstanding child is not a miracle, but a trace.
Its cause lies in the family; its root lies in the parents.
All of the four daughters of the March family are so outstanding because they have a good mother whom everyone envy.
3. Open-minded, encourage daughter to pursue dreams boldly
Open-minded mothers will not restrain their children with their own ideas. They understand the talents of each child and encourage them to be themselves.
Joe loves to write and is very talented, but girls of that era are usually only allowed to stay at home and cannot survive on their own. Mrs. March encourages her daughter to pursue her dream:
"Joe, you have so many extraordinary talents, how can you expect to live an ordinary life. You are ready to make good use of your talents. Go ahead and face your freedom. See what beautiful things can be accomplished. Although I don’t know what to do without you."
Mrs. March is like a rock, giving Joe firm strength and support. Later, Joe traveled to Europe alone, saw a whole new world, and experienced a more colorful life.
Let the young daughter go out alone, even though her heart is full of worries and reluctance, but still let her children dream boldly, this kind of Mrs. March is really amazing.
"I don't think there is any difference between girls and boys. The direct result of having them bend in girdles for needlework is to make women weak and dizzy."
Because of having such an open-minded mother, Joe's vision is obviously broader than that of his contemporaries.
In "Jin Zhiying Born in 1982", there is also a very admirable mother. In the early stage of graduation, Jin Zhiying was scolded by his father for not finding a suitable job: "I think you just wait to get married."
The mother was very angry, and angrily slapped the spoon on the table, and scolded her husband, "What age is it now, are you still telling the child those old-fashioned things?"
And told her daughter, "Zhiying, don't swallow innocently! Quick! Talk back! Refute him!"
These mothers are awe-inspiring because they do not stick to tradition and confine their daughters with conservative ideas, but encourage them to realize their self-worth, and even give them the wings of dreams.
A mother's best education for her children is to allow each child's talents to be freely stretched, to guide her to become the best herself, and to respect her final results.
At the end of the film, Joe's novel was successfully published. She became a writer and realized her dream for many years. She has gone further than other girls and surpassed other girls in her personal achievements.
Such achievements are remarkable even today, let alone in the mid-nineteenth century.
04.
Tagore once said,
People who are afraid of the ordinary are truly ordinary.
Family education does not necessarily mold children into "successful people", but it has the responsibility to train children into "sound people."
The essence of love is to give children freedom, tolerance and appreciation.
Mrs. March never asked the children to be such great characters, but always did her best to love each child with all her heart.
She is well aware of their differences and interests, and respects the differences of the four children. Whether they are excellent or mediocre, she regards them as her pride. With her gentle and firm love, she gave her daughters the most precious wealth in her life, and ultimately shaped four strong, independent, confident and brave daughters.
In real life, how many parents can pay more attention to the truth, goodness and beauty of their children than to their children’s test scores?
In my opinion, the film "Little Women" is not only a story about the growth of women, but also an educational film for all mothers.
As the "Hollywood Reporter" once commented:
This fascinating movie will have a long shelf life.
Although it has been 150 years since the original work was published, this classic has been constantly being remade, and a fifth edition was released last year.
Perhaps, no matter what era, we all need "Little Women". And Mrs. March's education method, the kindness and fraternity, strong self-confidence, independence and courage she advocates, will never be out of date.
View more about Little Women reviews
