The South Korean film "Su Yuan" is 120 minutes long, and it throws an extremely cruel dilemma in the first 30 minutes: the 8-year-old girl Su Yuan was violently sexually assaulted by a middle-aged man on her way to school, causing her large intestine and anus to be damaged. Fall off and have to rely on artificial organs for life. Press the pause button here. If you were the director, which main line would you choose for the next 90 minutes? First, revenge and punishment: the perverted scum must be paid for; second, healing and reconstruction: try to restore the normal life of this once innocent and lively little girl. At this time, you will find that the second main line, if you want to continue, is much more difficult than the first one. As an ordinary person, just thinking about how to design the next life of such an unfortunate little girl would be as powerless as Yu Gong standing in front of a mountain. It also explains that when we see similar crime news, there is more anger and accountability than tracking down the victim's future. It's not that I don't want to, it's that I dare not think about it. Because it was too difficult, we automatically blocked this huge dilemma. Your life is no longer easy, so don't ask about such a heavy fate. But the director of "Su Yuan" did not shy away. This does not evade, and directly determines the high level of the film. Over the next 90 minutes, in a tragic but not incendiary narrative, several major themes gradually emerge. 1. "The strength of family members alone is not enough." Suyuan suffered one in ten thousand hardships. What is 1 in 10,000 suffering? The probability is 1 in 10,000, and the world is extremely evil—then she will bear 10,000 times heavier damage and pain than ordinary people. Her parents are also the bearers of this suffering. They will faint, anger, mourn, despair, cry... This family is like an antelope bitten by the crocodile of fate, dragged into the dark swamp step by step. Weak and wailing people are unable to help themselves and cannot help another person, so psychological rescue has its important value. In a society that understands and respects people, when a person encounters a sudden and major disaster, this society will have a self-evident consensus: not only to heal his body, but also to heal his mental trauma. Therefore, the psychiatrist in the film firmly said: "The strength of family members alone is not enough." She does not deny the greatness of family love, but in dealing with human nature, psychiatrists have better and more professional methods and experience. She is right. Without the participation of professional psychotherapy, it would be hard for you to imagine that this family could stand on tiptoe, stepping on the ups and downs of warmth and hope, and get through the sea of suffering. Not comparing with European and American films, just watching this Korean film, and then looking at domestic film and television works, it is still difficult for us to find works that elevate psychological assistance to such an important level. Is this really our reality: here, Is the suffering soul just broken and withered, not worthy of careful care? When we care about a person, we will care about his pain from the spiritual level, so we can say that this is a civilized society. 2. "What did I do wrong?" It is not easy to be born as a human being, because suffering has a Matthew effect. Those who suffer will fall into the trap of humbleness more and more easily. Human nature shrinks in this way. Soon after Suyuan's "accident", she began to avoid acquaintances and reporters. It was obvious that she was a victim, but her family was even more afraid that public opinion would swallow her up again. She didn't understand and asked, "Did I do something wrong?" The laws of the world are so cruel, those who have been abandoned by their parents, abused by their parents, bullied and humiliated by others... all have a heart in them. Stubborn voice: "It's all my fault, I'm not good enough." No matter how unruly they look. The proof is that they will repeatedly avoid the real happiness in life, and the people they really love, they are subconsciously accustomed to self-dwarfing, accustomed to being incomplete, accustomed that they are not worthy of being loved and happy. The same is true for Xiao Suyuan. She was puzzled at first, but gradually turned into a self-attack of "It's all my fault". This is how disasters make things worse. Have someone keep reminding her: "It's not your fault", "It's not your fault". The young genius in the movie "Good Will Hunting" has developed a solid value system of "rejection if you want to avoid injury", which is used to resist the deep inferiority of being an outcast in childhood, but it is impossible to prevent it in sentence after sentence. "It's not your fault" cried in front of him. It also reminds us of the limitations of our thinking: when we see those retreating bodies, do we subconsciously think that the unfortunate person should or can only be unhappy forever? three," I wish all kids had the same thing. "The film does not avoid trauma, nor does it avoid the stress response caused by trauma: grievances, complaints, accusations of unfairness. "Why is it me? "Anyone who has been slapped by fate will question God with hatred. Suyuan's mother, a person who can't bear to eat dog meat, will also wish that all children suffer the same bad luck after a change," so at least Our family Suyuan will not be so special. "Although I feel guilty, I can't help but think so. Suyuan's father initially blamed his wife's thoughts: "You are too cruel. "But when he really realized the pain that his daughter will face in her life, he cried: "I used to blame the child's mother for being too cruel, but it was me who was cruel. "Because my daughter bears the most terrible cruelty in the world, she bears it alone. Fate has never been fair. One of my doctoral friends, who uses mice every day for experiments, she told me that when she uses her hands When going to catch the mice, sometimes I suddenly see the hand of a "God" grabbing some of us and throwing them into a desolate fate. The difference is that she still has some compassion, but that "God" , as if not, just a complete mechanical accident. Fourth, "This is the night, when the place is covered with butterflies, we Suyuan can speak. "The trial of "evil" can comfort the victim, but it cannot give the victim a time machine to go back to the past. Suyuan said: "Sometimes I think that I will go back to the past when I sleep, so I will go back to the past." Go to bed obediently, but wake up the next day and nothing has changed. " What's more, as "Su Yuan" reveals, there are always so few fair trials. It is very difficult to heal Su Yuan's wounds. The psychiatrist couldn't get her to speak, so she gave her a black-bottomed sticky book , and a tin of colorful butterfly stickers: "I asked, Suyuan came to answer, and each time she answered, she could stick a butterfly. It is night here, and when it is covered with butterflies, we Suyuan can talk. okay? " Suyuan nodded, and the first butterfly appeared on the "Night". This patient communication symbolized the true meaning of healing: fighting and punishment alone cannot completely eliminate the "evil" in the world, that is, " night" . Whether you like it or not, "Night" is there. For Su Yuan, that extremely unfortunate encounter is an irreversible fact. The only way to fight against the "dark night" is to introduce "butterfly", let the "butterfly" occupy the dark space, spread and multiply in the dark, and change the appearance of the dark. And "butterfly" is love and understanding. You cannot destroy the night, but when you have enough love and understanding, you will not be eaten by the night. 5. "Why were you born into this world?" Unlike physical trauma, mental trauma is often lasting and even aggravated over time. At the beginning, Suyuan was able to comfort her father and identify the murderer, but gradually she began to lose her words, cry, and scream. Finally, one day, she asked softly, "Why were you born in this world?" Yu Hua's novel "To Live" Rich and noble, he also endured great suffering, but he never asked back, "Why do you want to live like this?" Just the fact of living, he was satisfied, no matter how ruthlessly crushed by fate. Many people were moved by this, but I was quite uncomfortable with this numbness. In contrast, an 8-year-old girl's questioning about "birth", and even her vague suicidal tendencies, made me see the dignity of life even more. Man is not the heartless "Yantron" in "The Wizard of Oz" who can endure any kind of torture and humiliation without feeling the slightest pain and grinning and surviving. People who can't feel pain are the most terrifying people. Many perverted murderers do not have any awareness of pain. In the face of devastation, some people choose to move forward with pain, while others choose to give up their lives because they are unbearable. We can't blame the latter, that's his right. Just as we cannot experience his pain. You think that the pain of others is just the southeast wind of the third or fourth level, which is nothing to be concerned about. As a result, when the aliens come, they will connect you with a tentacle that can completely connect the feelings of others, and you only realize that he has been standing alone in ten Category 2 hurricane. "The loneliest people are the kindest, and the wounded often smile the brightest, because they don't want to let the people around them suffer the same pain." This sentence in "Su Yuan" touched the tears of many people. Although there is a suspicion of sensationalism, it is half the truth. It is true that people who suffer alone are especially sensitive to the pain of others. People who have been in the dark for a long time know what they are afraid of just from a small gesture of others. Bill Gates said in their graduation speech at Stanford University: "If you encounter something that shocks or even breaks your heart, don't run away, face it and solve it, it will be your moment to change the world." wrong. In this world, the careers of many people are related to their painful experiences. One is to have a strong empathy for them to approach similar people and things, and the other is to help others to obtain their own salvation. The psychiatrist in "Su Yuan" embarked on this path because her daughter committed suicide after being sexually assaulted. These people are angels who not only keep themselves alive, but have the energy to give to others. What is the opposite of an angel? Just look at the recent arsonists who went to find someone to die with when they suffered.
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