The pain of women all over the world is the same.
In the documentary "India's Daughter", a man interviewed said: "We have the best culture, but in our culture, women have no place."
The status of women in India is extremely low.
Even today, tourists who travel to India can see such derogatory slogans on the walls of temples in Calcutta: Serve men like God.
Indian women, women in big cities are not immune to sexual harassment, sexism, and even scary rape. Those women born in remote villages are undoubtedly living in dire straits.
The post-70s Indian female director Lena Yadav focused on the female compatriots. From a female perspective, with bold and explicit dialogues and even large-scale shots, she sharply presented the misery and pain of imprisoned women.
The movie "Hot", like Spielberg's "Purple", is also about the awakening of women who are struggling in suffering.
In this world, black skin, yellow skin, white skin, whether poor or rich, democratic or autocratic, women, as long as there is still marriage, still need to have children, pursue equality and dignity, will be the eternal theme of women.
Although in China, the status of women has improved today, but looking at those foreign women who are now struggling in patriarchy, is it not looking at ourselves, looking at us in the past?
What's more, in some parts of China, women are still trapped in numb forbearance, under the shadow of violence, and in self-torture.
I hope this film, the torn corner of the darkness, can see through a little light, let women touch, let men reflect, after all, women's pursuit of equality and dignity, what they need is the reflection of the whole society, and what is needed is the sincerity of the majority of men from the heart with change.
I am not a strong feminist, I just want to use this film to reflect on the growth and destiny of women. I hope that you who are reading this article at this time, if you are a man, you can understand women better, and if you are a woman, you can find a Take the key to the cell.
The assimilation and kidnapping of group cognition to individual cognition.
The setting of "Hot" is a desolate and remote countryside.
This village is poor and backward, and what is also backward is the thinking of the people here.
This village is still the self-government of the elders.
Such a group of traditional and old-fashioned people, guarding that bit of authority and ignorance, have become the creators of female tragedy.
At the beginning of the story, there is a woman who can't bear the abuse of her husband's family and escaped to her parents' home.
She thought her parents' house could be her shelter, but her mother pushed her out the door anyway.
In her mother's eyes, a married daughter is someone else's family. What kind of fate in this life is your destiny. The greatest virtue of a woman is forbearance, as long as the husband of that family wants you.
Her mother had long been prevalent in this village, strengthened by the elders from generation to generation, and instilled by the women from generation to generation.
In the eyes of the elders who defended their reputations, a woman's escape to her parents' home was a disgrace to the village.
Even in the end, this poor woman tore the fig leaf and wept bitterly to tell the unbearable truth: her man never touched her, he had a mistress, and all the men in the family raped her whenever they had the chance, including her brother-in-law and father-in-law. She had a miscarriage because she didn't know who the father of the child was...
At that moment, her mother must be heartbroken. She was stunned and stopped dragging her daughter's hand, but then she agreed with the elders and advised her to return to the fire pit.
"We can't go against the decisions of the elders, we still have to rely on these elders to survive..."
The woman struggled to be pushed, shoved, and dragged toward the car not far away. In her desperate eyes, there was a shadow of death floating by.
As soon as people enter the group, their IQ is seriously reduced. In order to gain recognition, individuals are willing to abandon right and wrong, and exchange their IQ for that sense of belonging that makes people feel safe. - Gustave Le Pen, The Crowd.
Her mother must be heartbroken about what happened to her daughter, but in the face of the authority of the elders and the set of standards she had long been brainwashed into, she chose to sacrifice her daughter to make the village's face.
Obey the authority of the elders and the survival rules of this village, and never think about whether all this goes against human nature?
Mark Twain once said: Whenever you find yourself on the side of most people, you should stop and reflect.
The minority obeys the majority? The majority is not necessarily the truth.
"The masses have not really craved the truth, and they will turn a deaf ear to the evidence that is not to their taste...Anyone who can provide them with an illusion can easily become their master; whoever disillusions them will become their victim. "
These elders who are dragging the tail of the times, what they want is a kind of authority, what they want is a kind of control over the minds of others, especially women, and use morality as the banner to show their sense of superiority.
The women in the village want a TV, and they want a TV that will keep men's hearts and not let them have the leisure to buy sex, but even this request is ridiculed by the men in the village. They are like a big enemy, and they are afraid of TV. It will poison women, women will run off with men on mobile phones, women will learn to wear jeans from women on TV.
They stick to their traditions, and those civilizations that are different from them are monsters in their eyes.
"Women who study, don't be good wives." They laughed at the female teacher who was teaching here. A group of them beat the women in the village to take care of them. The teacher's husband, who was kind and respectful to his wife, almost beat him to death.
At the end of the movie, in this village, the only flame of civilization was put out by them, and the three women who could not bear the ravages of fate also chose to escape from this suffocating place.
When individuals are unable to fight against this powerful and thick prejudice, it seems that staying away is the only way out.
Just like us, in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, you work as a freelancer, you don’t get married, you don’t want children, no one treats you as a freak, but when you are in a narrow place, the spittle of the people around you can drown you in minutes .
Under the assimilation and kidnapping of group cognition, individual cognition can only shrink, compromise, and then protect itself under the pressure of the group.
Living in a messy environment, there are only two endings either assimilate or leave.
As for Kaihua, it takes too long, and it cannot be shaken by oneself.
Women who are suppressed and attacked will only have an incomplete self
The three heroines in the movie were all soaked in bitter water.
Widow Rani, whose son is a copy of his father, a rambunctious, abusive wife, inept and angry.
She got married at the age of 14. After two or three years of marriage, the man died in a car accident. She pulled her young son with one hand and took care of her paralyzed mother-in-law with the other.
In her life dictionary, there are only two words her mother-in-law kept instilling in her: forbearance.
She is always dressed in black, and her life is hopeless black.
Rani
Living in such an environment, Rani's self-integrity has long been broken, and it can even be said that she has never established her self-integrity. In the life of violence and forbearance, the riverbed of her life has long been covered with silt, and it is impossible to say that it flows freely.
Her daughter-in-law read books, and she scolded her: "Women who read books can't be good wives. You should think about how to please your man."
The first half of Rani's life was a prostrate life, a life with no ego at all.
This is the root of women's tragedy, like Celie in the movie "Purple": I don't know how to resist, I only know how to survive.
Rani's friend from the same village, La Qiao, felt inferior because she never had children, and because she failed to have children, she was often beaten by her alcoholic husband. She didn't really enjoy sex, she was just the object of her husband's venting.
Pulled Buckwheat
In order to fulfill her husband's dream of having a child, La Qiao, with the help of her best friend Billie, became pregnant by borrowing seeds in a cave.
When her husband knew she was pregnant, he was even more furious. It turned out that he always knew that he was infertile, but he insisted on the dignity of a man, and let his wife keep the blame and was criticized and despised.
Is a woman incomplete without having children?
Rani said that La Qiao is not a complete woman if she does not have children.
Can children really define a woman's integrity?
Two days ago, a 70-year-old woman in India risked her life to give birth to twin baby girls through IVF, finally fulfilling her wish to be a mother and breaking the cursed fate of others.
Rani's forbearance, La Qiao's desperate child dreams, behind their stubbornness and strength, is an incomplete personality.
People who truly have a complete personality are often nourished by respect and love.
People with self-integrity are often neither humble nor arrogant, and can maintain their dignity without giving up their claims.
Beauvoir said in The Second Sex: Women are not born women, they are made.
Their mothers and mothers-in-law taught them to please men, to serve men as if they were gods, to face the fists of men, and to face the injustices of society, they could only tolerate it.
Their men, selfish and ignorant, gain a sense of superiority by belittling women, and use violence to gain authority as a husband to cover up their inferiority.
Taiwan scholar Long Yingtai said: All interpersonal contests are actually power relations contests.
Therefore, obedience and submission are never as simple as logically correct and morally correct. The core idea behind it is whether there is enough power.
For women who survive in such an environment, their self-integrity has long been torn apart. In this unequal relationship, most people choose silence and forbearance.
But some people are starting to wake up.
After Nora left, is it a fall, a new life, or a return?
At the end of the movie, the three female protagonists, like wild flowers at the end, cut their hair, cheered wildly, left the village, and ran into a new freedom.
But like Nora in "A Doll's House," what will be the future of these three women?
Ipsen said he was only responsible for writing poetry, not for solving social problems.
Lu Xun also made predictions about Nora's fate after she left: Nora will either fall or come back. After all, freedom is not something money can buy, but it can be sold for money.
These three women, awakened from a nightmare, began to look forward to another life, but what kind of fate awaits them?
Rani's son Gulab once cursed fiercely: How can you bitches live without men?
The unrestrained and enthusiastic Billie is a former oiran of the song and dance troupe. She is free and independent, but she earns money for the visual and physical pleasure of men.
La Qiao is pregnant, and it will be difficult to make a living in another place in the future.
But awakening is a good thing after all, although their awakening is too hasty and passive.
In this world, regardless of skin color, country, rich or poor, women's pain is the same.
A lot of women's pain is rooted in two points.
1. Women's ideological and economic independence,
The ideology is not independent of the economy, so that women are in a dependent relationship in the relationship between the sexes, thus losing their autonomy.
In the movie "Purple", Celie's sister taught her sister to read and asked her to resist the misfortune imposed on her by life. "You can escape that devil's lair only if you can read."
In the movie "Hot", the female teacher in the village teaches the girls to read and read, and Rani's daughter-in-law eventually leaves with her sweetheart to read together.
Reading is an outlet for women's liberation. Without being enslaved in thought, there is the possibility of freedom.
In addition, economic independence is a pair of wings for women. If there is no economic independence, there will always be restrictions everywhere. This is also an important reason why many women are unwilling to let go even if they suffer.
Wollstonecraft wrote in "In Defense of Women's Rights": "I have long believed that independence is the greatest happiness of life, the foundation of all virtue; I need to be independent.
Independence is what makes a person a human being. Women, first people, and then women, wives, mothers.
2. Men's deep-rooted sense of superiority
Rani was utterly disappointed with her son, who had misbehaved and beat his wife. She told her son righteously: If you want to be a man, you must first learn to be a man.
When men learn to treat life with equality, respect and love, women's suffering can be reduced by half.
It is the duty of every mother to raise a man who respects women and treats life equally.
Otherwise, this man will become another woman's nightmare.
Just like Rani's son, he lives in an environment where he is always violent towards women and demeans women in various ways.
It is very important for a woman to maintain the integrity of herself. Even if the cracks are broken in the past, there is still the possibility of finding herself.
Movie, "Purple" stills
As the book Emotional Blackmail says, we need to rebuild our self-integrity in order to reverse a relationship full of repression and blackmail.
Try to use the following words as your own psychological suggestion and code of conduct, maybe the way of women will not be so passive.
I stand by my position.
I don't let fear rule my life.
I dare to argue with the people who hurt me.
I can make decisions about my own life without letting others interfere.
I keep my promises to myself.
I will maintain physical and mental health.
I will not betray others.
be honest.
This kind of hint and reinforcement can make women who are used to being submissive and women who are used to being controlled, give birth to some strength.
At the end, I would like to quote the poster of the movie "The Purple", it's about life. It's about love. It's about us.
The movie "Hot" isn't just about Indian women.
The picture below clearly shows the types of women's suffering and how men use their powerful male power to control and violence against women.
Patriarchal control over women is a prison created by men over women.
The pursuit of equality and respect for women's status is a long and arduous road. Women's freedom and independence, personal happiness, are in self-awakening, self-struggle, and men's respect.
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