On Sunday afternoon, I closed the curtains and turned off the lights. I watched two movies in a row about ordinary people's family exploration and state description. The already drowsy weather and the plot did not let people see the slightest hope. It makes the state of ashes even worse.
How can we keep sinking in the gray world, we must have some exciting, joyful and relaxing dramas to hit. Then silently open the video interface and search for this drama, yes, it is "Modern Family".
The so-called Modern Family is composed as follows:
the old husband's family: the old husband Jie, who is over sixty years old, the second married Colombian-American young beautiful and capable wife Gloria, and the second wife and the ex-husband's 11 children. fat son Manny.
Phil Claire family: Jay's daughter and Claire's husband Phil, teenage rebellious daughters Helen and Alex, and restless young son Luke.
The Mitchells: Jay's son Mitchell and his same-sex partner Cameron, and their adopted Vietnamese daughter Lily.
This drama basically revolves around the joys, sorrows and sorrows of such a big family. In addition to the records of the daily state, each segment contains the individual's inner monologue and daily reflection.
Now that I have watched the first season, I want to write down some cognitions based on the characters in the play and some thoughts on family, parent-child, and husband and wife relationships.
1. Perfection is great, but the many aspects of life are even more fascinating.
Many times, when these character traits play a role, maybe we as the subject are completely unaware, but when a character with such characteristics is projected on the big screen, more or less Let us see ourselves less. Admittedly, I see a lot of myself in Claire, paranoid, neurotic, controlling, perfectionist…
Claire organized family photos for the whole family and specially prepared white clothes for everyone. As a result, there were many situations on the spot. The broken stairs of her own house, the mess of pigeons entering the house of her younger brother, the newly painted furniture of her father's house, and the water switch that was temporarily turned off... It seems that everything is in line with her expectations. Opposing, and when her father Jay took the lead in smearing the mud on everyone, the photographer finally pressed the shutter and recorded this imperfect family portrait. Yeah, a family portrait full of mud in white clothes, can you say it's perfect? But everyone is smiling brightly, can you say it's not perfect?
When a former colleague came to visit her home, Claire hoped that the warm family she had built by quitting her job would impress her colleagues and make them envious and even jealous. With such expectations, she felt terrible when she saw the whole family in a mess. She is displeased with accusations and even angry with her family, which often happens in our lives.
We try our best to show the most perfect side to others to the world, but often encounter the worst face that we least want to show to others. But if you change your mentality, isn't life like this, there is a side A, there must be a side B, and if the outside world happens to meet, it may also be a side C. In this case, let yourself go. Take it easy, and feel better about yourself.
Coming to this world is nothing more than knowing people and knowing the world. As an obsessive-compulsive disorder + perfectionism, I often make myself tangled, hesitant, hysterical, and even set off on others. We often have particularly perfect expectations for the world and life, and we are confident that we can steer our lives and make plans to make many things happen perfectly according to our own settings, but life usually backfires. But that's life, it's so cute!
2. Self-confidence, humor, encouragement and moving
I have always been envious of those who know the way of humor. There is a friend who is very good at telling jokes and humor. I can't remember the content of many jokes he told back then. , but I remember every moment when I was amused and laughed. He is a person I cherish so far. And as we get older, we feel that being able to face life with a sense of humor is an unparalleled charm. This charm can fight the ordinary and difficult of life and let us live a more optimistic and open-minded life.
This American family, when they want to eliminate each other's prejudice, will let one party jump into the swimming pool as a condition and step, and will give the child as much encouragement as possible so that he has more confidence to do what he is doing...
Claire faced My father's Colombian wife is more prejudiced and dissatisfied. This Colombian woman who smuggled in is even 13 months younger than herself. At the same time, Claire is also jealous of her hot body, always worried that her husband Phil will Do something outrageous. In the face of such an embarrassing relationship, if both parties want to give the family more space, they must eliminate this prejudice and obstacle. So when faced with Gloria's frank statement that Claire didn't like her and how she was prejudiced about herself, Claire's heart was moved and opened, ending with Gloria jumping into the pool, and finally being honest with her. This passage shocked me greatly. Compared with the frankness and frankness of Western culture, we in the East seem to be too restrained and reserved. It is precisely because of this introvertedness that we often complicate many small issues, and unknowingly escalate small conflicts into difficulty. When we can be clever and humorous in the handling of family relationships without losing embarrassment, it will definitely be a major improvement in our ability to manage and live.
3. Rational tolerance and love are everywhere in the
play. The father-in-law is an outstanding man. He has a successful career, majesty without losing his demeanor, and a arrogant and stubborn personality. Tradition, even so, did not prevent him from accepting the existence of other abnormal situations.
Jay's son Mitchell is a true homosexual and chose to come out at the age of 25. I can't imagine what it would be like to come out as an only son in a family with strong domestic traditions, but as a father, Jay chose to accept and tolerate. , accepting his son's sexual orientation, accepting that he and his gay boyfriend start a family, and accepting their adoption of a Vietnamese-born baby girl. Meanwhile, in his second marriage, Jie chose a Colombian woman from the poor class who was many years younger than him and her 11-year-old son with her ex-husband. I haven't seen a shred of tinted glasses in their family because of these existences. If it were in a domestic drama, maybe because of this, we would see a son being rejected from home because of homosexuality, and a father being tortured by his children because he wanted to marry a foreign young and beautiful woman. Against gloomy blood and grief, and neither here.
Compared with prejudice and exclusion, they chose tolerance and love. Since they are a family, they should try their best to give care, understanding and support to family members. Perhaps, this is the greatest meaning of family members.
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