On the weekend, I read the book "The Tenderness of the Moment". I like Tao Lixia's writing, which is simple and clean, and has a sharp description of things. I like the word "sharpness". The first time I heard it was when I was having dinner with a founder born in the 1990s. The investor said that she was making a product with sharpness. There are several impressive scenes in the book, including the description of looking at animals in Africa, looking at the sea in different places, and the description of a man's wife eventually turned into a plant, waiting for her husband to water. My favorite sentence is: I never expect anything from you, so I'm never free.A person who has no extravagant expectations of the outside world, this person must have no weaknesses that can be exploited by the other party. The heart is either extremely hard, or it is very full and fearless. This is true freedom. We have a desire for this world, and we have requirements for others. The initiator of our needs is always the one who is bound. It will be firmly nailed to the ground by various "wants", and satisfaction comes from "owning". However, what you have will eventually lose each other one day. From the moment you have it, we are always on the lookout for someone who might steal it or, because of this life law of natural aging, it will be infused with traces of time. As said in the movie "Chongqing Forest", everything will have a date, saury will expire, canned meat will expire, and even the plastic wrap will expire; in this world, I don't know what is forever will not expire. Since there is a concept of 'time' in the concept of earth people, then correspondingly, there is the length of time. Every aerobic respiration intensifies the chemical reaction of the thing itself. Some things get more valuable as they get older, but for most items, we still like the way they looked when they were young. 'Freshness' is the best lubricant and binder. The further back, because there is an expectation for the future, the advanced attribute of 'thinking' will tie down human beings, and start to become sentimental. In my sophomore year, I read it once and recited the "Diamond Sutra" again. During that time, my mind was very open, and I felt that 'everything is false', and my mind was full of emptiness. Later, it was transparent for a while, and confused for a while. When I am frustrated, I occasionally become impatient. When I become impatient, I can't control my temper and lose my reason. Some people's natural physiological reactions are difficult to overcome without cultivation. Like Harry and Sally said in the play: There is no real friendship between men and women. Can't be a pure friend. Because if you are an attractive girl, a guy always wants to make love with you, and his nature makes him want to have a physical relationship with you.
In this movie, I like the way boys look at girls the most. From the first time Sally and Harry ate at a restaurant, Sally expressed her various requirements for dishes, and Harry's eyes explained everything. He began to be attracted to her because of her authenticity, because she had her own ideas and her outspoken personality. Harry also mentioned later, i like her personality. For every detail of Sally, Harry can accurately remember and describe it. Before going to bed every night, you are the last person I want to talk to you and say good night. Before going to bed, you can think of the person who wants to say good night to the other party. This type of performance has appeared in many movies. Another thing that impressed me is that in "The Name Engraved in My Heart", the two male protagonists, knowing the meaning of wanan = I love you and loving you, kept repeating good night to each other. At that time, homosexuality was not yet When recognized, their love affair is painful. However, after confirming that they both love each other, this feeling that you are right in front of me, but I can't really have it, is helpless but wonderful. If you think about it, this is a free and unfettered love. Love doesn't have to be possessed, we can meet every day. For each other, we are all single, and we can come as soon as we call it, how free to breathe.
When I was young, I liked someone and always tried to find information about Ta through various clues. At that time, love was very specific. Specifically, to see Ta's photos every day, to see Ta himself, to have real hands, hugs, and kisses, it can be regarded as 'together', to prove that you love me and I care about you. At that time, I wanted to know what he was doing every day, what he was doing when he was not with me, was he thinking about me just like I was thinking about him. When a relationship begins on the Internet, we always want to spy on the other person's appearance, hoping to find a photo of the other person to verify and compare with the Ta we expect.
Now, I like someone, I don't want to dig deep into Ta's past, I don't want to concretize Ta, I don't want any photos of Ta's influence. I like Ta, just because I can chat with him and I am very happy when chatting, that's enough. The more you grow up, the more you discover that it is such a great feeling that it can bring you freshness and make your eyes shine. If you have to dig deep to find a specific result, you will most likely face a disappointing representation, because I don’t think any reality is as perfect as your imagination. Why is Maruko so happy every day? Because Maruko likes to imagine all kinds of pictures in his mind. Why is Pai Daxing happy every day? Because Pai Daxing has no brains. Why is SpongeBob happy every day? Because SpongeBob has no memory. Sponge has no memory, the memory is on the soft sponge and cannot leave irreversible traces.
So, if you like something, do it. If you like someone, just express and chat with Ta. You don't need to own this item or have a relationship with the opposite person in the end. It's enough to be happy now and stimulate the high point of your imagination.
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