The title quotes Mr. Qian Zhongshu's "Fortress Besieged" saying that marriage is an eternal topic. Some people say that love is the grave. After all, two different individuals need to establish a stable long-term relationship. How difficult and tortuous it is. Yesterday, I watched the video of Professor Liang Yongan of Fudan University, and I learned about this film. I finished it today. It can be called a divorce textbook. Every couple who has entered into a marriage can calm down and experience it.
The story tells that Joanna, as a housewife, has been depressed for 8 years after marriage, has no self, and her soul feels empty. After returning from the night when her husband was promoted and raised his salary, she decisively left her husband and her seven-year-old son. , to start a new life. As for her husband, Ted, on the one hand, he was under tremendous pressure from the company's work, and on the other hand, he took care of his son's diet and daily life. emotion. Suddenly, the ex-wife came back one day and said that she would take her son away, but neither of them wanted to separate from her son, and then they filed a divorce lawsuit. Under the sharp criticism of each other's lawyers' various problems, both husband and wife have carried out deep introspection, realized a lot of epiphany, and at the same time relieved a lot. In the end, Joanna won the case, but she decided not to take her son and let him continue to live with her ex-husband. Although the husband and wife did not reunite in the end, they at least kept their son's childhood happiness, which was considered a happy ending.
In fact, no one does not yearn for marriage, but when you think of facing all kinds of trivial troubles after marriage, you will feel that it is good to be single. Especially today's girls, how much courage needs to be mustered to let go of everything and be at home with husbands and children, they are completely out of touch with society, and they will really lose themselves. So I still can't give up everything I have. I still have to work for the job. Even if I don't work, I still have to have something I like and have my own independent spiritual kingdom. Just like what was said in the movie, why women can't be as ambitious as men, and why it is only stipulated that women are more suitable for raising children than men, these are questions worth thinking about. Joanna was originally a very talented creative. After the divorce, she found a job with a higher salary than her ex-husband, so never set limits on yourself, and never be defined by anyone. You are always yourself, the one and only one. you.
However, I still appreciate the idea of educating children abroad. This situation will not happen in China, and it is also worth learning from parents and mothers.
As for myself, who is about to run for the third year, I will also step into marriage soon. Although I am still single, I still need to learn more. The following points are my personal inspiration and insights. 1. Don’t be a housewife, and don’t get out of touch with the society; 2. No matter how busy the husband and wife are, keep communication and spiritual exchange; Education, not only by the father or mother, both parties are responsible.
In today's society, the marriage rate is low and the divorce rate is high, which is really difficult. Create a complete self first, then go and form a complete family with another complete self! Come on? 2022, everything can be expected!
January 2, 2022 16:24
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