Say it to her, and only to her

Austyn 2022-04-19 09:01:58

In the film, Mark and Benino met for the first time, and Benino was moved by Mark's tears. And at the end, Mark covered his face and wept bitterly when he read Benino's letter. The sympathy between the two stems from almost the same fate - but Mark stops at reason, while Benino goes on paranoid.
The director intentionally or unintentionally compared the two pairs of "lovers". The pair is Mark and Lydia, both of whom have had emotional experiences, and both walked together with the wounds left by their previous relationship. Lydia's peculiar profession - the female bullfighter gave her a fearless face, and when Mark watched her interview on TV for the first time, she never talked about her failed romance - even at the expense of the host He didn't want to open his mouth when he turned his face - not even if he lied. She's got a lovely quality - she's vulnerable. And when Mark sees her terrified to the extreme by snakes, her endearing qualities become more apparent - I think that's when she sparked Mark's love. However, just when the two were about to talk seriously about their relationship, Lydia was injured by a bull during a bullfight, and the relationship came to an abrupt end.
In the hospital, Mark met Benino. Another pair of "lovers". Benino has never been in a relationship, and has been in a coma for four years. Alicia was studying dance before, and she is single. Unlike Mark and Lydia. There is something immature, or too brave for love, in Benigno and Aricia—mainly on Benigno's side. Benino saw Aricia dancing and fell in love with her, and he took care of her after Aricia was in a car accident. Arisia, who is being cared for in the film, is happy—she changes makeup, she's neat and tidy, and Benino talks to her completely as if she were sober.
Because of these, especially Benigno's naive optimism, infected Mark and made him begin to have confidence in Lydia. And the two pairs of lovers who seemed to be more and more similar were gradually no longer similar in a series of events that happened later.
When Lydia's ex-boyfriend comes back to tell Mark about his call with Lydia on the day of the accident, Mark no longer believes in Lydia's love for him. So he was gone, he opted out and continued on his own journey. On the contrary, Benigno's love gradually deviates from "love in love, and only in ritual". Arisia is pregnant, and the rhythm of the whole story picks up immediately.
Mark's love story ends when Mark returns to Spain following Lydia's death. But Benigno's love story was completely out of control. Benino has been charged with rape - to be honest, I don't think that's true. But it was indeed Benino, so, in a short period of time, the film explained the death of Alicia's child, her waking up, and all the plots of Benino committing suicide because of false information. At the end of the film, Mark and Aricia see each other in the theater, and I think the music for the end has already started before the story is over.
The story is so good that I desperately wanted to tell it myself. I was struck by Benino's bravery. But how Eros responds, Benigno is immature in this regard. It's actually hard to deal with Arisia's love - she can't respond to your love, but love is mutual, how will this love develop with your lover whose everything is under your control? It seems that the plot is not exaggerated. Benino appears as a gentle and weak image, but his love for Arisia fully brings out the brave and persistent side of his character. So, he did what he had to do.
I admire people like that very much, but only. From an artistic point of view, he is brave and beautiful; from a worldly point of view, he is immoral and obsessive; but from a philosophical and religious point of view, he cannot control his desires. In this case, Mark in this movie shows another fascination - I have desires, but desires are not me. Although I love Lydia and can sacrifice for her, when this love does not respond, I choose to let go instead of entanglement, even if I am very sad. Mark handles it the same way with his last relationship. But Benino is not, he is obsessed with eroticism and can't get himself out. He created beauty, but also destruction. So, I admire him and I study Mark.

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Extended Reading
  • Jaime 2021-12-11 08:01:28

    To Benino, Alicia is not a lonely liberation. Someone gains and some loses. You may see it differently from what he sees, because the meaning of love always belongs to oneself. "Love does not mean that you will get anything out of it, but it only means that you will give - give everything. You will be rewarded for it. However, this has nothing to do with your giving. You give because of you. Love. If you are lucky, you may be rewarded with love, which is intoxicating, but such things may not happen. Love only means dedication."

  • Bill 2021-12-11 08:01:28

    The calm intoxication, Almodovar's skill is dazzling

Talk to Her quotes

  • [last lines]

    Katerina Bilova: Nothing is simple. I'm a ballet mistress, and nothing is simple.

  • Marco Zuluaga: Love is the saddest thing when it goes away, as a song by Jobim goes.