"Autumn Sonata" is a tragedy between a mother and daughter, and it also reflects the pessimism and sadness in Bergman's heart. The mother doesn't want to admit her fault at all, but the daughter wants to get her mother's emotions. The demands of the two are different, and it is destined that the daughter's efforts will not be able to achieve results.
How helpless and sad to be born as a mother and daughter, but unable to become a real mother and daughter!
Where is the way out for the miserable children? This question is reminiscent of one of our ancient sages, Shun. He might be elected general representative of the tragic children.
According to Sima Qian, Shun's father, Gusou, preferred the son born to his concubine, and often beat and abused Shun, and even tried to kill Shun several times. His father asked Shun to work on the roof, and then secretly removed his ladder. Shun could only use a bamboo hat as a parachute to jump to the ground and not die. His father asked him to repair the well, and he wanted to bury him alive by filling in the soil from above while he was in the well. Thanks to his anticipation of his father's ruthless move, he dug a side passage in the well in advance and was able to escape.
Facing such a vicious and ruthless father, Shun did not resist or complain, but focused on how to save himself from the reality. Shun devoted himself to governing the country and rejuvenating the state, and became the leader of the most powerful tribal alliance in the Central Plains.
Why is this so? Are Chinese people stupid? Is Shun more stupid?
What is more comforting is that Shun bravely faced his own destiny, instead of begging for the love of his parents that was not in his life, he tried to fulfill his mission.
To use a phrase that has become popular in recent years, Shun knows how to surrender.
To use a concept in Chinese culture, Shun knows how to seek out others.
According to a principle in psychotherapy, Shun knows how to take responsibility for himself.
If Bergman can meet Shun, then the daughter in the movie can have a different direction of effort, a different destiny, and a different ending when she becomes an adult.
She won't go to complain to her mother wholeheartedly, she won't expect her mother's love, she won't focus on her mother, and she won't let herself be in the child's powerlessness all the time.
She will realize that a selfish mother is doomed to be unrepentant, she will find other ways to solve her own problems, she will try to live her life well, and she will become an adult who takes her own responsibilities so as to avoid repeating the tragedy.
From children to adults, a simple sentence is not so easy to do.
Fortunately, there is a big director like Bergman, who made a movie like "Autumn Sonata", which can express the inner feelings of everyone, and also show the futility of some efforts.
Fortunately, there are ancient wise men and sages, who have long realized that fate will not be satisfactory, and figuring out that taking their own responsibilities is the only way out.
It is so hard to surrender to fate, but there is no other way.
Can only take a deep breath, and then bravely hit the road.
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