Deeper than the sea is the love of family;
The most easily let down is the love of the family!
Compared with the stagnation of Japanese TV dramas in recent years, the level of this movie is not bad, at least it does not use the usual "Little Fortune" and "Little Perfection" as the ending in Japanese TV dramas (my country is all "Great Perfection"...hehe). The protagonist is a writer who wants to be a famous writer - although he has only published a novel that won a small prize, lives in a rental house and can't pay his rent, earns a vote and immediately gambles it instead of paying alimony to his son, keeps asking for money. A middle-aged man who borrows money from a kind colleague, stalks his ex-wife without boundaries and makes his son look after him after a divorce, is a lie, and thinks about his mother's pension money all day long. Even so, my mother still tells everyone that he is a writer, how promising.
The mother in the play is very loving, very patient (if she can't bear it, she may have divorced long ago), she is wise (unfortunately, because of the constraints of her concept, wisdom has not brought her a better life), and she has a cheerful personality (it may be unhappy). I was already pissed off by my father and son).
If we look at it from psychoanalysis, the man's narcissistic personality and giant baby performance can be traced back to a very derelict and immature father in the parenting process, and a father who has always emphasized his advantages but failed to correct his shortcomings in time, and his life is still unsatisfactory. Over-arranged mother (many details show that the son in his 30s is still over-arranged by his mother in life, so that he cannot form an independent personality), but I may ask this mother too much, because for the son, as his The growth example of the father, the responsibility and influence of the father is greater! The problem of the father itself makes the man a continuation of his father (because of the positive influence of the mother, the man may be a little better than the father. And there are details that the man did not want to identify with his father at first, such as wanting to be a civil servant, but the film also It is not stated why he later returned to the same path as his father).
Even if the family loves in an inappropriate way, it cannot erase the original meaning of love.
We who have grown up should understand, because we understand, we understand, so we should work harder to start growing independently!
Maybe some scenes are very moving, and I feel that the man is very emotional and loves mother and child very much, but his love for mother is more at the cost of others, and his love for children is not mature enough, more like he has found a playmate of his own. His free-spirited and loving way may be cute as a child, but as an adult, the lack of a sense of responsibility and responsibility is hard to endure for a long time (the person with whom he can establish an intimate relationship may be more like another " mother", rather than an equal adult).
Some of the most interesting parts of the plot to me are:
1. Only an older sister who has grown up from a young age to a mature age can accurately predict what her younger brother wants to do!
The younger brother used the chat routine and the elder sister asked: Where did the mother put all the money in order to prevent the father from stealing it? Then, he went to find his mother secretly while he was sleeping... However, when he opened the box that he thought was his father's inheritance, he saw a message from his sister: "I'm very sorry! (Sister)" This "regret" contains too much emotion~ Although the elder sister is familiar with the past of the younger brother, she still did not give up on him - this warning is the elder sister's reminder to the younger brother that he needs to change! The elder sister is a full knife-mouthed tofu heart.
2. The ex-wife repeatedly stated her thoughts gently and firmly, and did not rekindle her fantasy about the man because of her grandma's tears and actions expressing her desire to get back together. This is a rare insight and rationality among kind women! If she is soft-hearted again and again, there will be no impetus to force the man to grow up, and she herself will be reduced to endure hardships all her life. In the end, she is like a man's mother, who can only relieve her unwillingness by complaining to her son. and grievances.
3. Near the end, the mother's heart-to-heart talk with her son in the middle of the night is the highlight of the whole play (there are not many mothers and sons who can talk like this, it can be seen that the emotional depth of mothers and sons is still very good. This is also what we can expect men to do. One of the driving forces for change):
(Mom talks about her needs)
Mom: "But, as I'm getting old, you have to watch it by your side."
Son: "I don't want to watch"
(speaking of father)
Son: "What the hell does he want"
Mom: "I also never understood... He blamed all his faults on our time"
Mom: "You should treat people with your heart while they are alive. Why don't men cherish the moment, always chasing after what has been lost, dreaming of unfulfilled wishes, how can they be happy when they are bound?"
This is the dialogue of rebirth. In the first two role models in life, the "father" failed to give the answer, but after reviewing the father together, the mother gave him the answer! The middle-aged man is thoughtful about his mother's words... This may be an opportunity for him to actively redefine his purpose in life and the way he behaves.
The movie has an open ending.
But I believe that even if his ex-wife remarries someone else, he will no longer be jealous and stalking without knowing the boundaries, because after his mother's conversation with him, he responded to his ex-wife's wish that he not (not let go) stop in the past It is very serious: "I understand".
If he wakes up faster, he takes over the comics that he once looked down on because of his high standards, stops gambling, and repays his debts little by little, understands that novelists and professionalism are not contradictory, and knows how to use solid efforts to accumulate wealth, use Honestly accompany to maintain family and friendship, and if the timing is better (if the current boyfriend that the ex-wife met is not completely suitable), maybe...they still have the possibility to start over after reconciliation.
I really hope that men can work hard, so that the mother who has suffered all her life in the family can finally live in a comfortable house (mother's wish for a lifetime)!
As for the lottery, I don't think it's better to expect it, it will destroy the core of the film. The only unrealistic character in the film is a middle-aged man and a colleague who has a too healing friendship (of course, it can't be said that there must be no in reality, but he failed to do more to this colleague who can satisfy his repeated borrowings and fail to repay it. A convincing account. The only thing that can be explained is that some details of the film suggest that the colleague seems to have a similar father and family experience to him, so I can especially empathize with him).
Last but not least, family love! Be sure to cherish it more and never abuse it!
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