Why love?
Why not love?
...
Watching "Meet Tuesday" and discussing the topic is a task assigned by our foreign college English teacher.
"Why have we discussed this movie for 3 weeks in a row?" I heard many students complain. The teacher happily let us watch the movie for two hours in class, and kept us discussing topics in the next two weeks of English class. He asked: "Why does Morrie say love or die? How do you understand when you know how to die, you know to live?". He always talks about "love".
"Love is the most important thing in the world. There is only one kind of love in the world. Life has meaning only when you give love. Have you ever fantasized about your Prince Charming?"
These words from the teacher really made me roll my eyes: "It's another messenger who preaches capitalist love and peace, or a rotten person who has a deep obsession with marriage. He really thinks that today's young people will hear it. Why don't you go down this nutritious pale chicken soup?"
In the last discussion class, the teacher asked the question again, and asked everyone to integrate the content of the previous discussion, and then answer "how to understand when you know how to die, you know how to live". If a discussion group comes up with an idea, invite them to their home for home-made pizza.
In order to get pizza and end this lengthy task, each group explained their best understanding.
It talks about living each day as if it were the last, which can help us look at our lives and save what’s really important. And that important thing is love. Love the people around you, love the cause you really love;
Others say that death is not separate from life, that death is a part of life... So how to deal with the precious life that accompanies death? It's about giving love and receiving love. For how to love, everyone based on Morrie's planned day (discussing, chatting with friends, family, and then spending the rest of the time dancing) is the famous line in the book "Meeting Tuesday": Dedicate yourself to love, give yourself Dedicate yourself to the community and dedicate yourself to creation that gives you purpose and meaning.
Some people also quoted Marx as saying that people are the sum of social relations, and no one can live without the relationship between people. There are two deaths in total: one is biologically declared dead, and one is when everyone forgets you, and the world will have nothing to do with you. As long as we love those around us, we will always live in their hearts.
Some people even combined the dialogue between Morrie and Mickey in the last class in the movie to clarify that the theme is No fear to love. Mickey was afraid that his career would take a step back and did not give Jenny enough care; Mickey was afraid of suffering pain and regret, and did not dare to establish a deep emotional connection with Murray.
The entry point of these classmates really throws my composition proposition a street. I couldn't help but applaud them.
However, the teacher said that although almost every group was very close to the core of the theme, it still didn't really get to the point. Some things just connect everything and make you gag. And this kernel, we have not really disclosed it.
what is it?
Isn't it love...
is dedication
is selfless
is to stop being self-centered
Teacher says.
What matters is not love itself, but the verbs of giving and receiving. Love itself does not exist. Two lonely people have nothing to do with each other. But when they start worrying about each other's cold and hug each other, love is born. The world became very noisy a long time ago. There are chasing people everywhere. Our day seems to be full, but we are never satisfied. That's because we've "pursued the wrong things."
"Our culture doesn't encourage you to think about this kind of thing, so you don't think about it until you're dying. We focus on some pretty selfish things: career, family, making money, paying off your mortgage, buying a new car, Fixing a heater - getting caught up in the never-ending chores just to survive. So we're not used to taking a step back and looking at our lives and asking, that's all? Is this all I need? Is there something missing? ?" (from the book "Meet Tuesday")
Back to the movies. An important question is why did Jenny finally agree to marry Mickey? When Mickey proposed to Jenny again, Jenny did not say whether she would like it or not, but said: "I don't know, I want to see Morrie". What did she see from Morrie, what were the key points that made her believe that Mickey was worthy of her life?
At first we thought it was love. We think Jenny sees Mickey's skillful rise to take care of the elderly and understands that Morrie has the ability to love others.
More centrally, however, is that Morrie is no longer selfish and perpetually self-centred. In the past, Morrie was doing a job he didn't love and enjoying the fun of asking tough questions to sports stars; Mickey rarely made promises to his girlfriend Jenny, who had been in love with him for 7 years. Instead, he asked Jenny to cooperate with his own. During working hours, when his girlfriend was talking, he often interrupted her; Mitch did not keep his promise to the teacher Morrie, and did not come to Morrie's house until Morrie was critically ill.
And at the time of Jenny's meeting with Morrie, Mickey dropped all work and focused on taking care of Morrie. On Tuesdays when he's visiting Morrie, Mickey doesn't even have to bring his phone (you know, Mickey is a workaholic who can talk to his boss on dates). You know, Mickey's whole world was his own.
Why do we have problems? I asked Morrie. When I waited seven years before proposing to Jenning, I wondered to myself, are our generation more cautious than our predecessors, or more selfish? (Excerpted from the book "Meet Tuesday")
After the teacher finished speaking, we were all silent. I even realized that why we can't sum up this word accurately, is it possible that I didn't realize that I was selfish a lot of times. My world is small and revolves only around me.
I don't know since when, I saw a child who was about to adopt a stray dog when I was a child, and now I have become an adult who would rather cheat and disguise in order to get results. For the world, the most subconscious conversation I have is, why not give it to me, am I not working hard enough.
The gears of selfishness can only turn on their own, and they are self-centered, and they can only keep their own big piece of the sky forever. A lot of people, like me, feel like they've never felt strong feelings for others, whether it's family or love. In the realm of love, we may neither "receive like babies nor give like adults". The inability to deeply empathize with others and create deep emotions may simply be because our world is rarely genuinely open to others. When we speak of "love", we have no other person in mind. Therefore, we are still an independently rotating gear.
"Society is confused about what it wants and what it needs," Murray said. "You need food, and you want a chocolate sundae. You have to be honest with yourself. You don't need the latest sports car, you don't need the biggest house. "Actually, they don't satisfy you . Do you know what really satisfies you? What is it? "Give others what you should give. (from the book "Meet Tuesday")
And Mr. Murray has a super power, he can walk into people's heart, feel his/her need for love, and turn with her/him. Even though he suffered the death of his mother and the indifference of his father as a child, he still chose to be gentle with others. And choose to be a teacher for a lifetime, carve the students as a piece of rough jade. Originally, I may have said that I hope everyone can meet people like Mori, but in fact, I want to say that I hope everyone will become such a person and become a light.
At the end of the film review, I would like to share with you an interesting little story that Morrie and Jenny told:
"A small wave that has drifted in the ocean for countless springs and autumns. It is enjoying the wind and air it brings to it - and then it finds that the waves in front of it are crashing against the shore. "'My God, this is too much Terrible,' said Xiao Hailang. 'I'm going to have this bad luck too! ' "'At this time another wave came. It saw the small wave with a sad expression, and said to it, 'Why are you so melancholy?' "The little wave replied, 'You don't understand! We're about to hit the coast. All our waves will be gone! Are you saying it's not scary? ' "The wave said, 'No, you don't understand. You're not a wave, you're part of the ocean!'" (from the book Meet Tuesday)
Don't stare at yourself all the time, we are part of the ocean! That's why we give love.
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