Can this entangled desire also be called love?

Jasmin 2022-03-17 09:01:03

This is a desire that no one is willing to avoid. I always think so, about this movie. Or to put it in one sentence, a man will never forget his first woman.
Does any woman ever stay long enough to find out what the hell goes on in your head? At
the beginning of the movie, this strange woman who only appears once asks Michael. He stood in front of the open window, the train passed slowly, and the past rushed towards him. He closed the window, and the rain from many years ago seemed to be still lingering. Closing the window does not close the floodgates of memory.
A fifteen-year-old boy, sick and isolated in a cold and rainy day, panicked by a thirty-six-year-old woman. Or none of them thought that they would have an intersection with each other. Two months later, he came to thank him with flowers. Carry this word, it is a very apt description. A fifteen-year-old boy, standing in a woman's room, watching her ironing clothes, at a loss. The moment of peeping outside the door, the action of the woman wearing stockings aroused the boy's erotic nerves. After being discovered, he fled.
Later, they were together. Meet. go to bed.
The boy covets the erotic pleasure of a woman, the first woman in his life. He was full of love for her body and skin. A woman or just, lonely. A single woman with little culture, rushing for a living, her withered heart is embellished with green by this fresh youth. From the very beginning, this relationship, the relationship between these two people, was a entanglement of desires, full of physical overlaps, sexual unions.
Start chaos.
The third time, they exchanged each other's names. Michael, Hanna. The theme of the reading begins to emerge. It's the only communication two people have outside of bed, something special, before and after sex. I think that's the clue to the love between them, that naked sex is not enough to make them love each other. Reading aloud outside of sex makes them fall in love after entanglement of desires. Or, I can't understand whether this is love or not. It's just loosely called love. At least in my opinion, love should come first. The love described in the film was completely foreign and incomprehensible to me. So let's just call it love. And in this love, there are too many desires.
What I paid particular attention to in the film was what the teacher said during Michael's class. For example, the theme of "Odyssey", which was repeatedly emphasized, was the journey. "At the heart of Western literature lies the idea of ​​secrecy. It can be said that the whole of the characters is based on certain information that is not made public among people. The reasons for this may be varied, or mean or noble, so that people decide to keep their mouths shut." The words were taken by me as a portrayal of Michael's behavior. From "The Lady with a Little Dog," Michael can't wait for his brisk footsteps to turn into hesitant tardiness and blurted reasons for being late. Usually, I take this reason as a lie. Sophie's presence wrote the best footnote for Hanna's departure. One is trivial life, the other is shining youth. Young boy, his heart is changing unknowingly. Or, this is just Michael's growth, from motherly love to peer love. Of course, for Sophie, his feelings can't be called love, just adolescence. The initial temptation for both sexes was Michael seeing Hanna's sexy moves, but now, Sophie's young body, full of youthful vigor, is a different kind of temptation. It's just that this temptation has little to do with love, nor does it have much to do with desire, it's just a normal product of a child's interpersonal communication. Or, it can develop into a hazy love, as most people's first loves are. Hanna is Michael's undisclosed secret. The youthful desire to be vented is also an undisclosed part.
I believe that Michael's sadness is real after Hanna left without a word. Father's language is very philosophical. Then Michael grew up, went to school, started a family, and started a business. If there was no Hanna trial. A woman and a boy are just two fishes in the water, how to forget each other in the rivers and lakes, forgetting is an inevitable law. In a relationship with Hanna, the boy is more mature than his peers. When he grows up, he is no longer easily attracted by the desire of the flesh, so his rejection of the female classmate does not mean that Hanna is a woman who has an influence on him. How profound. It is not easy to draw conclusions about Hanna's trial, morality and law, right and wrong. Ignorance, while unforgivable, is enough to make morality seem shaky.
Michael didn't see Hanna before the trial and didn't give evidence. Although many people have cited him as a bargaining chip to criticize his emotional departure and cowardly character, it is not the case for me. First of all, we must allow people to make mistakes and accept the weaknesses of human nature. Secondly, we must respect the choice of the client, which is another kind of consideration, even if it is not accepted by law and morality. Gray areas do exist, and not everything is right or wrong, and even if there is, it doesn't apply to everyone. What most people recognize is not necessarily the truth, but the possibility of morality. Morality is often domineering and hypocritical.
Hanna receives Michael's tapes in prison. In the second half of the film, these are some images of tenderness. Whether it's atonement or the remnants of an old relationship, since they were together, Hanna's hobby has been fulfilled here. And, she was trying to learn, trying to get rid of the heavy burden of her inferiority complex. This is a good thing. When two people are together, separated, and reunited, the result may be the same, just a habit that has been retained. All the love that has passed away and the people who have left have made us subtle and unconscious changes, which often exist in the form of some habit. Whether your love is deep or not, it is enough to make you cry like rain at a moment when you are touched. Residual memory haunts. I also started to get used to staying up in the middle of the night. This is the habit of love. Nothing to do with love, just the wreckage of love.
Michael finally met Hanna, after a few years apart. Everything has been vicissitudes, and the people in front of them seem familiar, but they are already unfamiliar. They are hearts that are far away, and they only meet each other with the remaining thoughts. She is getting old, he is young and strong, this is a distance of billions of light years. Even without this distance, they wouldn't be together. Michael's arrangement with Hanna and Hanna's suicide may make some people feel Michael's coolness. actually not. It's just a young and frivolous relationship, but a ignorant desire of a young man. Why should he be responsible for the rest of her life? Just relying on an old incident that is already an old yellow flower? Just because she gave him the unforgettable sexual enlightenment? All these reasons are ridiculous. Even so, she loves him. Why should Michael pay for Hanna's love? Love goes one way, not equal.
Also, I don't think that Hanna's suicide was because of Michael's lovelessness. When she was able to bravely leave him back then, the love after this desire would be riddled with holes and not worth nostalgia for. Her death is the guilt after learning some knowledge, and the despair of the rest of her life. Yes, he gave her hope, but that hope was just a little comfort when she was helpless, that's all. This is some kind of dependence, not the hopelessness of love disappearing. His obsession is mostly because of the strangeness and secret of this love. When he put it all together, it was all over.
Can this love that is lingering in a desire also be called love?
"I'm not frightened. I'm not frightened of anything. The more I suffer, the more I love. Danger will only increase my love. It will sharpen it. It will give it spice. I'll be the only angel you need. You will leave life even more beautiful than you entered it. Heaven will take you back and look at you and say, Only one thing can make a soul complete, and that thing is love." [I'm not afraid. I have no fear. The deeper the injury, the more intense my love. Danger only adds to this love, making it clearer and richer. I will be your only angel. The end of your life will be more beautiful than the beginning. Even Heaven that opens its arms to you will say that there is only one thing that can make a soul so complete, and that is love. 】
It's a pity that such a good poem is just a hypocritical promise when love is in a daze. The sole function of an oath is for future breaches.
Abandoned forever.
Postscript:
Thanks to some people who have inspired me. Memory link keywords: mutual support; love derived from desire; hypocrisy. Perhaps, which of you can understand, the three words I am referring to are you.
The ending. 2:41

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  • Clementina 2022-03-22 09:01:28

    Stephen Dedley's most profound work to date, the deep excavation and multi-angle analysis of human nature is quite chilling, and Kate Winslet's actress is well deserved.

  • Stuart 2022-03-19 09:01:04

    The picture of reading aloud to you when I was young at that time is too beautiful and touching (sometimes I also imagine reading a book with a loved one, our voices will be knotted in the air and will never be separated again) . The film twists and turns with changing moods until the moment the tape that Ralph Fiennes sent to Kate Winslet who is in prison starts playing and I can't hold back the tears for the entire second half. part.

The Reader quotes

  • Young Ilana Mather: [Testifying in court] Each of the guards would choose a certain number of women. Hanna Schmitz chose differently.

    Judge: In what way differently?

    Young Ilana Mather: She had favourites. Girls, mostly young. We all remarked on it, she gave them food and places to sleep. In the evening, she asked them to join her. We all thought - well, you can imagine what we thought. Then we found out - she was making these women read aloud to her. They were reading to her. At first we thought this guard... this guard is more sensitive... she's more human... she's kinder. Often she chose the weak, the sick, she picked them out, she seemed to be protecting them almost. But then she dispatched them. Is that kinder?

  • Michael: I'm not frightened. I'm not frightened of anything. The more I suffer, the more I love. Danger will only increase my love. It will sharpen it, it will give it spice. I will be the only angel you need. You will leave life even more beautiful than you entered it. Heaven will take you back and look at you and say: Only one thing can make a soul complete, and that thing is love.