Most apt title: My Life Without Me

Mireille 2022-03-23 09:03:18

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(2003)

Is the film about love or affection?

All you can feel is a person facing death's final vision of life

This is the story of a man who silently endured the passing of everything he loved

Time seems so limited

Feeling deprived of creativity and imagination

Annie (Sarah Polley), a cleaner under 24, is diagnosed with cancer

Only two to three months left

Anne's husband is the first and only man in her life

Her husband asked her to give birth to daughters at 17 and 19

It forced her to grow up overnight

she loves her daughter she loves her husband

But she can't love her life

Because this life has robbed her of all her dreams

"I don't have any dreams anymore. How can you live without a dream?"

However, there are still people who pretend to live happily in a daze

like that super ironic one-man dance in the supermarket

Everyone dances with life

In fact, it's just to cover up the remaining pain in life

And her jailed father couldn't offer her asylum

She never saw her father again after he was in prison

Anne's relationship with her mother was not very good

She knows that her mother loves her, but she also knows that her mother hates everything in life

She wants mothers to show more love to their children

Even if it is a little nostalgia for herself after her death

for present life

She didn't feel like a family of four lived in a trailer

what an unbearable thing

Annie is delighted that her husband recently got a new job building a swimming pool

Although their lives have not changed

Although Annie herself has no vacation opportunities

Although the two daughters still have many conflicts caused by their young age

Although life seems confused and fulfilling

She never complained

But she was sad that she was leaving

unspeakable things

just choose silence

Annie decides to hide her illness from her family

And wrote ten wishes before death

Including finding a man who loves you deeply

Birthday wishes for daughters until they turn 18

Find a kind stepmother for two daughters

Arranged a meeting with my father over the years

try to enjoy the rest of your life

So it happened according to plan

Anne stumbles upon a surveyor returning from Alaska in the laundry room

The two rubbed a spark of love in a short period of time

And when she introduced a female colleague who was full of diet plans to her husband

but failed

Of course it won't work

Because her marriage to her husband came from love

She is forever grateful to the boy who took off his undershirt and wiped his tears at the concert

She also always loves the boy who gave her a family and two daughters

It's just that she doesn't want her husband to rush to the hospital, work and life

The arrival of a female neighbor with the same name as Annie soon after

Let Annie rekindle the idea of ​​filling her family with a mother and a wife

This Annie, she loves her two children infinitely

Seems like she's an ideal candidate

in the last days

Annie met her father as she wished

“I Want to touch you”

It's a pity that they can only meet in a hurry through the cold glass

Annie misses the days they used to spend together

I miss the song my dad played when he left home miss the words my dad said

But "some of us just can't live the way others ask us to

No matter how hard we try, you just can't do it"

As for his mother

She knew that her mother hated everything in the world

But she understands her mother because this life has been too difficult

So Annie encouraged her to meet new people and love her new life

In order not to let her husband know about his illness

Annie can't even give Don the tapes of her daughter's birthday for years to come

I had to entrust it to my own doctor

looks

Everything is implemented step by step

Of course, Annie's death is approaching

all the people who want to see the people who are worried the people who are sorry the people who are deeply loved

She has one last goodbye

On that port she thought quietly

Is there anything you can't do?

In fact, just ten things on the list

How can you tell the story of many years to come?

So the movie is not written for someone else

Just for Annie herself

This is her own bucket list

Just for the sake of my own mind

The joys and sorrows of others

she still prays

"You don't know what to pray for or to whom to pray

But you pray"


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  • Robb 2022-03-24 09:03:38

    Death is planned. Love the romance in the car on that rainy night. All in all, very impressed!

  • Emilia 2022-03-24 09:03:38

    Very delicate female film. There are too many points in the details that can touch the heart. The Chinese tapes in the car, and finally I had my nails done to see my father. The difference between her and the surveyor in the rain before she closed her eyes moved me to tears. Everyone has their own wounds that they hide and secretly lick, and there is also happiness that they secretly put in their hearts. Sarah Polley is a good actor.

My Life Without Me quotes

  • Ann: [trying to joke around] I knew something was pretty serious when you sat down here beside me.

    Dr. Thompson: [awkward] They're renovating my office, changing the air-conditioning and...

    [looking suddenly really sad]

    Dr. Thompson: no, that's not true... l can't sit down in front of someone and tell them that they're gonna die... l've never been able to...

  • Ann: [a brief shot of Lee on a deserted cliffside is seen. He sits down in his car, looking depressed beyond belief as he loads a cassette tape into the car's music player. The voice of Ann is heard in the last tape she ever recorded before her death] My darling Lee, l guess by the time you get this tape you'll know that l'm dead, and, well, all that... maybe you're angry with me, or...

    [the image changes to a shot of Dr. Thompson, who has locked himself in his own office and is crying silently while holding Ann's box of tapes for her children that she entrusted him with]

    Ann: or hurt, or sad or upset...

    [the shot changes to hairdressers dancing, to Ann's waitress clipping a photo of Cher from a fashion magazine, and then to Ann's co-worker gnawing on a carrot stick with tears in her eyes]

    Ann: ... or maybe you're just all of it together. I just want you to know that I fell in love with you.

    [Dr. Thompson opens the box of tapes and neatly sorts them by date on his office shelves. Meanwhile Lee leans against the wall of his empty apartment, weeping beside his bookshelf]

    Ann: l didn't dare tell you 'cuz l thought you kind of knew, and l didn't realize l had so little time. Actually, time is the one thing l haven't had enough of recently. Life is so much better than you think, my love. l know, because you managed to fall in love with me even though you saw, what was it, you said ten percent? Five maybe?

    [the shot changes to one of Don, Penny and Patsy with another woman, cheerfully packing their van for a day at the beach. The children laugh. The woman is revealed to be Ann's neighbour, also named Ann, and Don is holding her hand affectionately]

    Ann: Maybe if you'd seen it all, you wouldn't have liked me. Or you would have liked me in spite of everything. l guess we'll never know. Oh, and one last thing...

    [a shot is shown of Lee painting his walls white and piling up more used books for his collection]

    Ann: Lee, for God's sake, just paint your walls and buy some furniture, alright? l don't want the next woman you take home to get the wrong idea about you and run off before she gets a chance to know you. Not everyone's as crazy as I am... l loved dancing with you.