Chat with a girlfriend. She cried to me that she had been preparing for pregnancy for more than a year, but she still hadn't gotten her baby as she wished.
She said that because she was planning to have a child, she was afraid to transfer her work and had to check her body frequently, which took up a lot of her work time. Now that a year has passed, and the child is not pregnant, I feel that my life and career have stopped together.
She said that she had planned to change jobs very early. But at this awkward stage. Even if she wasn't really planning to get pregnant, most employers would have this concern. Changing jobs is easier said than done.
Coincidentally. I have another girl friend who is also at this pass. Married for many years and no children. Even though she is very good, she has repeatedly failed in the process of changing jobs. For the sake of political correctness, the employing department would not tell her the reason for not hiring her. But discerning people know it. In the same position, it is better to have a second-best boy than a better girl of reproductive age.
Another girl friend who has already given birth and is divorced does not have this trouble. She has no worries, nor is she worried by her boss that she might have a baby. After all, she doesn't have a new boyfriend yet, and as her age is getting closer and closer to 40, the chances of having another child are getting smaller and smaller. So she went smoothly and made great progress in the workplace all the way. She told me that this is a courtesy that you don't get when you are around 30 years old. Although she was struggling just as hard.
So when I saw this short review, I couldn't help but laugh.
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"Why are women giving birth to children?"
As long as women still need to have children, there is no way to achieve true equality between men and women
The show is endlessly facialized and stereotyped feminism. It is not necessary to confuse women's pursuit of equality with "feminist power".
I would like to think about and discuss why it is so difficult for women to pursue true equality?
Here's a story first:
I have a good relationship with my boss. He once said something to me, which was a kind of advice. In the workplace, he said, women were expected to approach people or manage in a "female way". It will be more effective than using the "male way".
I asked him what was the "feminine way"? Why are there gender differences? In fact, this sentence is a well-informed question. What he meant was that women would be more effective if they approached management issues in a (more stereotyped) softer way.
I argued with him for a long time. But there's still no way to drag the issue to sea level for noise. Because this stereotype does exist. But it is implied. This method seems to be more effective, similar to what Ayawawa taught people to capture men with lower PU. They are essentially the same.
Because the whole society defaults, what women "should" do. And, in a male-dominated age. This method is obviously more laborious and pleasing. Why? Because men eat this set. And who are most of the in power in the workplace? male.
Just imagine: if the current power in the workplace, ceo, coo, cfo, the first-level and other high-level executives, are all replaced by women. Do women still need to talk about doing things the "female way"? Women themselves are different in the way it is. It can allow a woman to be feminine, or it can be strong. It can even be allowed without any features. Judge it without these features.
Pull away.
What I'm saying is that all kinds of stereotypes are real. They won't be brought to sea level for discussion. But people are subtly highly consistent. The inconsistent person is considered an outlier.
So back to having kids.
The stereotype of the whole society believes that women will affect their careers because of "children". Sometimes it's temporary, sometimes it's lifelong. Because women seem to be "fit" to be carers. Also easier to be emotional. It goes without saying that the physical and emotional discomfort caused by pregnancy will directly affect work efficiency. After giving birth, women seem to spend a lot more energy and time with their children than men. Even if it wasn't, most people would think so.
There was a study in which a certain number of male and female college students were sampled and interviewed about their career and future plans. The sample men and women who were interviewed were interviewed again 10 years after graduation. The number of women dropping out of the workforce and/or women no longer having high career aspirations far exceeds that of men.
Why this happens, this study examines from different dimensions. (Because I can't find the original text of the study, the data is missing here. If there are children's shoes for this study, welcome and thank you for providing me).
This is funny. Why female? Are women born unmotivated? Don't want to pursue a career? nonexistent. Because of prejudice against women in the workplace, unequal pay for equal work between men and women, and the pressure of pregnancy, childbirth, and family care, women do not have equal job opportunities.
And even more frustrating is this inequality. All are buried underground.
It is true that society is progressing, and female consciousness is also awakening and rising.
It is good to see that more and more phenomena now point to the rise of female consciousness and power. From last year's #ME TOO# global voice, now more and more neutral male idols appear. The former means that more and more people are willing to support victims who may be "stigmatized" and are willing to take the time to uncover the truth. The latter implies that women are increasingly independent in society. Therefore, the aesthetics are becoming more and more diverse. (This can be a big issue on its own. The general idea is that only independent women will appreciate feminine men. Women are not independent, and they will appreciate the image of strong men more. )
However, we must expect that women will not be "discriminated" in the workplace, in the family, and even in society because of having children. That is to say, it is not believed that because the birth of a child will have an adverse impact on women's work, family or social roles, so as to obtain equal and free rights and treatment. It can only happen on the basis that the whole society has tacitly agreed that having a child will have the same impact on men and women.
Once this is impossible to achieve. It cannot bring about the general consensus of the whole society. Then the unequal rights brought about by childbirth will affect women's freedom and power in various bright and dark corners.
Don't say this has nothing to do with you. I used to pride myself on defending women's rights. In the process of recruiting, he subconsciously rejected a woman who might have a child, and hoped to accept a woman who would not have a child for the time being, or a man "unrelated" to having a child. After realizing this, I was incredibly ashamed.
Hey, since fertility brings so much resistance to women's equality. I thought, maybe there's only a day when women don't have to give birth anymore. To achieve real equality between men and women, right? And before that, each of us should work hard for it!
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