Last night at home alone, I clicked on the dramas that she wouldn't watch but were interested in, that is, those dramas that won awards but looked boring.
"leaving Netflix 31 July"
This line of words on the screen prompted me to choose this set.
After my mother got sick, she said to me twice: "Fortunately, you don't have a family yet, otherwise you would be so busy." No matter how people who came and went in the ward urged me to get married, my mother didn't move. She has experienced the pain of marriage.
My father and I met two months ago, the fourth or fifth time in thirty years. This time I finally couldn't help but ask why the two of them separated when I was two years old. Mother never mentioned it, but at least I wanted to hear his version of the story.
While watching this series, I noticed how similar the male lead felt to the marriage experience my father described:
Families with father-in-law and mother-in-law with different classes and different views, and a husband and wife relationship that has no common language and drifting apart, always feel despised, suppressed and unable to lift their heads. Not only the wife, but even the wife's family members despise him and even try to dismiss this idea. spread to the next generation. He felt trapped.
I understand my father's thoughts, but this is not an excuse for the male protagonist to cheat, nor does it explain the rationality of his father's evasion of responsibility.
"She asked for marriage."
"I have to get a divorce."
A cowardly man indeed!
Come on! No one is forcing you to marry your rich wife to get a household registration with a gun. If you don't want to get married, even if she wants to live, she can't force you!
To be honest, after watching this drama, in addition to understanding his psychology in marriage, I also gained a greater understanding of this kind of man's escape mentality. The most outstanding aspect of the film is the abused AB perspective in Chinese literature. So in and out of the play, whoever wants to get married, divorced and cheated on a pole is simply Rashomon.
Some people say that there are two kinds of people in life: one admits that life is fucked up; the other does not admit and pretends that everything is fine. The father is the former, and the mother is the other way around.
But I prefer to be the third type: admit that life is fucked up, but work hard to take responsibility and love life.
Hope to be a better person.
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