How do people deal with stories that are hard to look back on? Avoid, dust off, deny or confront? There are 10,000 ways to do 10,000 people, and American documentary filmmaker-Jennifer Fox presents her story of being sexually assaulted when she was 13 years old, using interviews/records/performances and other methods to present it to us through this tale. From this angle, I will give the most people the way they choose to be able to live through the moment or to be self-consistent in as much detail as possible - whitewashing peace (self-deception)
Today, instead of discussing the part of [the sexual assault of minors], I would like to focus more on the topic of how people should deal with their own memories, or in other words, those that have a profound impact on our lives, but it is difficult for us to Memories of stories that are even reluctant to recall; I believe everyone has a little bit of memory inside of us that is denied in our own values, contrary to what we have always believed to be right, beautiful, and right, but sure enough. It has really happened, and we are even the leaders, important participants or key witnesses. For a time, our knowledge structure cannot give us a self-consistent and reasonable explanation. In order to spend peacefully in our hearts, We often choose to deceive ourselves to make ourselves feel better, and even when more time passes, the memory begins to blur, and we hardly remember what the truth was at that time? And we have also changed from the one who actively tries to deceive memory to the one who is passively deceived by memory. Just as Jennifer in the story has been trying to whitewash her story of being sexually assaulted at the age of 13, at the age of 48, she still "believes" that it is a special relationship, she refuses to be regarded as a "victim", and the other party is also her former " "A lover" rather than a "criminal", and she has been unable to enter a marriage for 35 years until she faced the person who had tortured her again, and the indifferent words and rogue face of the other party finally shattered the last trace of her. Obsessed, gave up the beautification of ugly memories, and reached reconciliation with the real self;
It seems to me that this is a story of self-redemption, like a locked secret door to find his key, like a lost and floating ship seeking his lighthouse, there is no real empathy in the world, this redemption We can only go through the road of life by ourselves. We are not understood, respected, valued, and there is no partner who walks the same road. We must dig out the memories buried deep in our own inch, examine, analyze, and place them in the sunshine. Under the sun, let people circulate rumors, until we face them again, they can be calm and talk about it. . . . . .
Finally, let’s talk about the actors. Laura Dern, who finally won the Best Supporting Actress Oscar with “Marriage Story” this year, has created a number of successful female images in recent years. Different from Cate Bratchett, Meryl Streep), the female image she established is a combination of strength and vulnerability, true and without a sense of story, and interested friends recommend watching "Big Little Lies" and "Marriage Story" and "Little Women"
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