Text / Lu Fuxun
"You have the right to reject my love, but you can't despise my love, because it is a heart that sincerely beats for you."
- Charlotte Bronte
The film "Jane Eyre", adapted from the world love classic novel "Jane Eyre" by the famous British female writer Charlotte Bronte in the 19th century, takes the United Kingdom as the world's number one industrial power as the background, and tells the story of Jane Eyre's parents since she was a child. After passing away, she was left alone and experienced hardships. When she grew up, she got a job as a tutor. It was at this time that she met the love of her life, Rochester. Originally she was about to marry Rochester, but found that Rochester had a crazy wife who was hidden by him, so she left him. But in the end, after the death of his wife, she returned to Rochester, who was blind and had nothing.
In Jane Eyre, the reflection on women's independent consciousness, the contemplation of not bowing to fate, the analysis of inner personality, and the meaning of true love are the most wonderful and profound aspects of this work, which make it still a popular work, and it is widely regarded by people. favorite. British writer Thackeray also commented that "Jane Eyre" is "a masterpiece of a great genius".
When it comes to "Jane Eyre", most people think of Jane Eyre's new women's self-improvement and self-love, the tenacity to pursue personal happiness, the courage to resist social prejudice and oppression, and the sincere and affectionate love between Jane Eyre and Rochester.
However, this article will start from Wang Yangming's thought, and explore how the most distant love in love, the love that understands deeds and words, and how to contend with fate, and the pursuit of happy love hides the essential requirements and truth of "the unity of knowledge and action" in Wang Yangming's thought.
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The farthest distance in love is just, I love you, you love me too, but you don't know each other's heart
At the beginning, Jane Eyre never expressed her love for Rochester, and she dared not express it, because she knew that she was just a tutor, and Rochester was a rich man with status.
She loves him, respects him, and wants to accompany him well.
She hadn't seen Rochester for a long time, and she would miss him very much, waiting for him to come back every day, but who knows, Rochester came back with another girl.
Jane Eyre was very sad, she couldn't control her tears. Despite this, she still did not express her heart to Rochester. She only told him that she would always accompany him, and that she kept her feelings for Rochester hidden from him.
In the film, the most profound plot for me is the comparison of Jane Eyre when I was a child and when I grew up. When she was young, Jane Eyre dared to express her inner needs and told her first friend: she was too lonely and wanted someone to love her; when she grew up, Jane Eyre was like a warrior who had surrendered to the world and began to be reserved , began to dare not express his heart.
Speaking of which, there are really many people in life who don't know how to express love, but if everyone hides love in their hearts, who will know your heart?
In Somerset Maugham's "The Veil" Katie once commented on her husband Walter: "He is too reserved. All about his family, his birthday, his education, and the life before she met her, she asked every sentence It's unreasonable that he is most annoying when people ask him questions. Sometimes when she wants to ask something out of curiosity, his answer will become more and more rude. She can see that he doesn't want to answer because he doesn't want to be right. She's hiding something, it's just his nature. Talking about himself makes him uncomfortable, shy, uncomfortable. He doesn't know how to open up."
In front of love, Walter did not exude his own charm, did not express his love to Katie with his words and deeds, and let Katie immerse in love because he did not love Katie enough?
Do not. Quite the opposite.
He loves his wife Katie so much that he doesn't even know she's cheating because he doesn't want to be separated from her.
But he's too reserved, he feels too oppressive, too boring, and doesn't make people feel at all tempted, so what's the use of him no matter how much he loves Katie, Katie can't fall in love with him after all .
In the movie "Pride and Prejudice", the eldest sister, Jane, who is the number one girl at home, is also because she is too reserved, so that her lover Bentley does not know her intentions for him, thinking that she does not love him. Bentley couldn't feel the strong love in Jane's heart, and almost made the two lovers miss each other.
In front of love, really don't be too reserved, otherwise love is like passing water, extinguished fire, and it will pass away at any time.
Because of restraint, because they don't know how to express their love, the two sides don't know each other's intentions, so Yue Lao personally "tears" the red line of the relationship between the two people who love each other, so that the two are drifting apart in love. And this is also the farthest distance in love - two people love each other, but they don't know each other's heart.
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Love that understands deeds and words can compete with fate
In love, the most taboo is "the mountain has trees and trees have branches, and the heart is happy and you don't know". A theory used in market competition is also very applicable in love: "the theory of first-mover advantage".
This theory is mainly explained by the fact that those who enter the market first have certain competitive advantages over those who enter the market later. In love, it tells us that love cannot wait.
In love, if you can't take advantage of the situation to chase and tell the other party your heart, it is easy for two people to have an accident during the time they are in a relationship, so that they lose the opportunity to get the other party.
Therefore, you must learn to have the courage to express your love with your own actions and words, create a language of love anytime, anywhere, and let the loved one know your heart, so that you can protect your love and open a heart-to-heart relationship with the loved one at the most appropriate time. love journey.
Jane Eyre thought Rochester was getting married, so she decided to leave. Resisting the pain in her heart, she finally summoned up the courage to confess to Rogerster in tears, expressing her heart for him: "Do you think that because I am poor, humble, unbeautiful, and short, I have no soul and no heart? You are wrong!—my soul is like yours, and my heart is exactly like yours! If God gave me wealth and beauty, I would make it as difficult for you to leave me as it is for me now. God Not doing so, and our souls are equal, as if we were both walking through the grave and standing at the feet of God, equal to each other—as it should be!"
However, he did not expect that Rochester also loves Jane Eyre. He brought other girls back just to test Jane Eyre's heart for him. His purpose succeeded, Jane Eyre really confessed to him, and he took this opportunity to propose to Jane Eyre.
And these are all because Jane Eyre, inspired by Rochester, began to dare to express her love again. Not only did she tell Rochester that she loved him in her actions, but she also expressed her love for him in her own words. Even though she left him later, when she came back, she still did not hide the strong love in her heart, so in the end she and Rochester could achieve a positive result.
It is said that "the water will run off and the fire will go out", and love may die at some point. Only love that understands deeds and words can compete with fate, and lovers will never be separated from now on.
Just like I once saw a sentence in the book "You Just Be Ugly Like I Like", maybe it touches the heart of most people: "When we were young, what we liked, what we didn't like, what we thought, what we wanted, We all say it, but when we grow up, we don’t dare to say it. When we become more and more mature, we don’t know how to express love. It’s not right to be ashamed to express it, or to feel that it is unnecessary. In fact, expressing it can make us stronger. , can also encourage others. In fact, the more you grow up, the more you should be brave. To express love and protect love.”
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Wang Yangming's heart to learn "the unity of knowledge and action": the unity of knowledge and action in love is also a kind of ability to love
Wang Yangming put forward: "There is no one who knows but does not do it. Knowing but not doing it is just unknown."
Mr. Wang Yangming's lifelong thought is "the unity of knowledge and action", which means that cognition and behavior must be combined with knowledge and action, and personal thoughts are integrated into words and deeds. He believes that everyone's "knowledge" and "action" It should be one.
In love, "knowing" is the mind, and "action" is the words and deeds of love. Infiltrating the mind into one's words and deeds is the unity of knowledge and action in love. If you don't speak your mind and do it, it can only be regarded as a crush, and the other party knows nothing.
Some people say that in love, it is better to do it once than to say it thousands of times. I think this sentence has the next sentence. I have done it thousands of times, and I have to remember to say it a trillion times.
In the film, Jane Eyre's love for Rochester is sincere and ardent. The way she looked at Rochester was as bright as the stars; her attitude of self-respect and self-love was eye-catching. Such beautiful and fiery eyes and appearance, no matter how desolate the heart can't help but be touched.
Miyazaki said: "Every move is a promise, and it will be seen in the eyes of another person and will be remembered in the heart."
All Jane Eyre's actions and words of love for Rochester are promises of love and reveal messages of love. Coupled with Jane Eyre's kindness, thoughtfulness, rationality and self-esteem, Rochester's lonely and troubled heart couldn't control her heartbeat, and she fell in love with her uncontrollably.
Learn the unity of knowledge and action in love, let your love penetrate into your words and deeds, and make your partner feel your sincere love for him. It is also a kind of love ability, and it is real, which can enhance feelings and enhance happiness Ability.
【Conclusion】
There is a sentence that I am particularly puzzled by, it says: "The deeper the love, the lesser the words." The deeper the love, the more reticent you will be, and the words of love will be hidden in your heart, and being a boring gourd will completely reduce the performance of love and affection.
The more you love, the more you need to express your love with words and deeds, and the more you want to "the deeper your love, the more your words and deeds". In this way, only trust and firmness are left in love, so that we can overcome the tricks of fate and compete with fate.
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