This urban legend prevails in the rivers and lakes: Indians use the toilet without paper, but wipe their buttocks with their bare hands, which has been verified by many parties. This kind of legend of the Arabian Nights class is actually true. Not only that, India also has a tradition of outdoor defecation. Men often turn around to solve it, but girls are different. Women go to the toilet differently from men, so local women will divide into groups at dawn. It is convenient to go to the wild in a group.
So what about during the day? The answer: hold on.
This tradition has been practiced in India for thousands of years. Until 2015, a girl named Nall broke her silence and filed a divorce application with the court because her husband was unwilling to build a toilet at home. Since then, the "no toilet, no bride" movement has been triggered throughout India. This true story was adapted and moved to the big screen, so there was the film "Toilet Hero".
I admit that when I saw the title of the film, I was in a state of ridicule and curiosity, but after reading it, I realized that the story of this woman going to the toilet is so profound.
It turns out that the Indian women's toilet army is such a scene. In the early morning before dawn, the girls came to the grove with kerosene lamps in one hand and water bottles in the other. When they came to the destination, they stood in a row, put the lamp and the kettle for washing hands on the ground, squatted down, and started the most important activity in the morning.
However, this is not the case for a girl named Jaye. She has had a toilet since she was a child, because she grew up in a family full of Western culture. She went to university and even her uncle has a foreign language certificate. But such a girl was captured by an uncle who married a cow as his wife.
The uncle's name is Keshav, and he married a cow at the age of 36, just because his father, a guru in Indian religion, gave him a fortune. To find a girl with two thumbs on her left hand and marry her. Until he met Jaye on the train and fell in love at first sight. Jaye fell under Keshav's ardent pursuit. She put on a thumb made of ginger and married Keshaf until the conflict became apparent after the marriage - there was no toilet.
It's not because of poverty, Keshav's father is a well-respected master, and his family is rich, but he doesn't want it. In the eyes of Indians, excretion at home is contrary to religious teachings, so when his son proposed to build a small toilet at home, his father trembled with anger and shouted that it was disrespectful to traditional culture.
Since then, the young couple has embarked on a road full of tricks to rub the toilet. I took the train to my grandma's house in another city. Because my grandma was seriously ill in bed, people had to build a toilet for her. Go to the train to rub, the train will stay in the village for 7 minutes every day, and the two of them will rush out. However, sometimes the train is late, and there are too many passengers to continue drinking water. Once, after going to the toilet on the train, Jaye decided to go back to her parents’ home in a disheartened manner.
In order to save Jaye, Keshav went to the district government to apply for the construction of toilets. He found that the government had allocated a large sum of money a long time ago to build about 6 million public toilets, but where did these public toilets go? Occupied and turned into a barber shop and tailor shop, so in front of Keshaf and Jaye, it is not money or the government, but the concept of the entire nation.
Everyone thinks that the toilet is a trivial matter, and the couple is just "hypocritical", and the couple thinks of the last resort - divorce. This move is earth-shattering, because there has been no divorce case in this village for 1,700 years, and the couple's divorce because there is no toilet has quickly made headlines in major media, and TV stations have sparked heated discussions.
When the TV station interviewed Jaya, "Who is to be blamed for your divorce, the government or tradition," Jaya replied, "Women, those who leave for convenience at dawn." They meekly accept the old unfair rules, yes Self-esteem and rights are blindly chosen, and when other girls stand up and defend their rights, it is a mockery. However, the pain is shared, and Jaye's voice has sparked protests by women in other regions.
The girls in the same village who were still making a fuss in Jaya also began to realize the cowardice of self-suppression. This is not a trivial matter. Going to the toilet can also be raised to an issue of human dignity and political height.
United Nations Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon said: "One in three women in the world cannot go to the toilet safely, and they face disease and humiliation. There is also the potential for violence when looking for a toilet.
In the end, the government carried out the infrastructure renovation of the toilets in the village, and the divorce of the two was finally rejected. Keshav's father also agreed to build a toilet in the home.
The toilet problem in India does not lie in lack of money or lack of political governance, but in the traditional concepts that ordinary people blindly adhere to without thinking. From this perspective, where are we ourselves?
To this day, many people still think that making a bridesmaid is innocuous. "The feelings are deep, and a mouthful of boredom" regards drinking as a kind of culture, and drinking can kill people. There are also endless female Durbans. Ordering takeout is not abiding by the concept of women's morality", advocating the four principles of "do not fight back, do not retaliate when scolded, accept resignation, and never divorce."
In addition to the women's Durban single, there is also a discipline class for disciples, in which a 10-year-old child repents in public for sins that should not have existed. The adults who come to the class fill the large classroom, and it is not only on the stage who share these distorted values. There are teachers who are lecturing and those who are obediently listening to the class.
However, the inherent thinking mode of human beings is too difficult to change. Perhaps what we can do is to stand up as the brave, break the convention, do not give denial, take a step back first, think about it, and ask: maybe I really Wrong?
Only then do we really leave ourselves with the possibility of a change.
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