Mo Di's story reminds me of a novel called Stoner. Neither of them has the brilliance and success in the traditional sense, but both of them are calm and accepting in their hearts. They are positive, optimistic, delicate, and unobtrusive. Any complaints and nitpicking feel their own life. They never complain about their surroundings, they just simply feel themselves. That alone is precious.
In addition, Mo Di also reminded me of a friend by my side. I think I need to focus on the if/then when choosing the big questions in my life. To put it bluntly, you need to leave yourself a way out. I think when Mo Di chose to leave her aunt's house, she chose to take another "retreat". Saying that the retreat may be a bit pessimistic and negative, it can also be explained that she needs to prepare in advance to be her own pick-up man.
Mo Di's brother sold the only house left by her mother, and Mo Di, who needs to take care of her life, can only rely on her aunt's house. But Mo Di was not willing. Once at the supermarket, she saw someone recruiting a live-in nanny, and she started to support herself in her own way.
This friend around me calls it little G.
Little G was brought up by his stepmother and father when he was very young. The stepmother also had an older brother, and most of the love from his parents was given to his older brother. The father is mild-mannered, much weaker than the strong stepmother, and does not take into account the gains and losses. So many things in Little G's childhood were made by improvisation. We are high school classmates. She chose to work after graduating from high school and needs a source of income, so Xiao G entered the society much earlier than us, so she has more sense of the world.
I have a boy who is a boy. For me, I know the bottom line. When I was in school, I sometimes went to sing together. Xiao G and my few girls have known each other since they were young. Later, she married one of them and had children, and they had a lovely daughter. Since I have a very close relationship with my parents and live relatively close to me, I would go to my parents’ house for three meals a day to eat, and my grandparents also need help to pick up and drop off my children from school. Therefore, the connection between this small family and the older generation is very high.
But Xiao G is relatively independent. She started her own business, is passionate about her work, and yearns for freedom in her heart. But the husband's focus is on his parents. For example, he will communicate in the family group after working overtime and returning home late. The main purpose is to tell his parents that little G is very passive, but he is used to it.
Many times she feels that her family is full of kerosene lamp effect, her husband has always been in a blame-type personality, and he has always looked down on what Little G did. Often pointing and pointing, so little G began to doubt himself.
Little G is very broken sometimes, and will tell me some helpless things in life. She really wants to separate, but there is nothing she can do. After the separation, first of all, there was no place to live. With a third-grade child, the pressure was too great to bear, so I had to endure it. Sometimes Xiao G came home a little late for socializing, and when he got home, her husband yelled at him. Even moved the guy. I was speechless when I heard it, but I couldn't say anything. I'm an outsider, and it's not easy to get involved in housework.
Sometimes I think, if she is in such pain, why doesn't she move out and rent a house?
Then I thought about it, and I really don't have back pain when I stand talking. I don't have children, so I can't think about things from the other person's point of view in the first place. In addition, it is very hard for her to start her own business, and most of them still need a support force. Her support force is this family. So I'll just keep my mouth shut and listen.
Why am I thinking of retreating? Little G loves to play very much and likes to let himself go, but her husband is the kind of person who always oppresses others, doesn't give in, thinks he's right about everything, and scolds him if he can't say anything.
I think, what if in the early days, little G didn't listen to her mother-in-law's persuasion to have a child as soon as possible, but wanted it when she really wanted it? Or start saving early, even if it’s not much, you can have a bottom line. If you can’t survive, you can rent a house by yourself. Life is like this, if you choose to belong to yourself, there must be a price to pay.
Mo Di left her aunt's house and went to work as a nanny for a laborer. In addition to her daily work, she would be beaten. Isn't this the price of living on her own and choosing to live outside her aunt's guard?
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