This sentence is the most empathetic sentence after reading it the first time. I feel strongly that people are incommunicable lonely creatures. No matter whether they are violent or gloomy, whether they are chattering expressions or silent silence, whether they are thirsty for approval or rebellious and rebellious catharsis, they cannot be understood.
After reading it, the first question I have been thinking about is what does the teacher do.
When I was in school, I naturally regarded the teacher as my opposite. I never treat teachers as people with real feelings. Their symbolic identity in my eyes far exceeds their meaning as a lively person, so I have never had a real dialogue with them, and I have never had a real dialogue with them. No real feelings for them. In my eyes, the teachers are very face-to-face. They will demand absolute authority, respect, and require you to complete your homework, and always stand in the position of being good to you. Even the teachers that everyone loves are just a different form in my eyes. Therefore, it is impossible to become the teacher I like. Because when I was a student, I was a strong skeptic, and I always tried my best to keep myself from being deceived, including not being deceived by the hypocrisy of the teacher.
Later, I became a teacher by myself, and to be honest, I felt very powerless. I felt that I couldn't give the students anything, and I felt that I couldn't communicate with them. This kind of incommunicable state is mostly because they are saying, I am listening, and then I don't correct or evaluate anything. I keep smiling and listening occasionally to say something, does it mean that I am not distracted. They said everything, "Teacher, I ran 100 meters in the district games today, and then I ate four hamburgers", "Teacher, in the future, I want my son to learn guitar, dance, piano, English and drums", "Teacher, I'm Ching Ming Festival. I’m going to Hong Kong to scan the goods, do you want to bring you a bottle of perfume", "Teacher, do you like Zhinian Li?"... I just smiled and nodded and shook my head and waited until time was running out and said, "Okay, don’t talk about it, or should I talk about it in class? It's over~"
I think they are completely self-venting when they are talking. They are actually very happy if I just listen to or understand it or not. I think I lecture too, I don’t know if they understand, have they learned, and they just complete the teaching task on their own. But we actually maintain a very good teacher-student relationship under this incomprehensible communication and incompetence. I like them very much, and they happen to like me very much.
They like me. Maybe I don’t care about absolute authority. Sometimes when I talk about something, my students will say that the teacher I’ve been there is not like that, I said, yes? The teacher just sees the facts from the book It’s not like that; maybe I don’t care about the need to respect. Sometimes they will distract themselves and play with their mobile phones during lectures. Even if there are only two of us in the classroom, I will just give it a cry. As for homework and responsibilities, It's too heavy, I can't afford it.
I strongly feel that I am a bastard. I told two of my students about this matter. They said that the teacher, don't be like this, we are also here to bastard. We all breathed a sigh of relief at once. But I can’t help but worry about them. After a while, I think it’s unnecessary. Their future won’t change because they didn’t take English lessons well for these two hours, and it won’t even change because of their stubborn attitude. I was after all I also came here in a mess, and now I go to college and I don't become a juvenile criminal. Then I was relieved again.
But the children in the movie are different. They, I think, are even more stupid. I remember very well the last words Liu Yuling said to the girl who wanted to be a model. They were all true. The girl was scared and left a sentence of fuck you away. One thing about being young is to feel that you are omnipotent. I was so virtuous when I was young, and I thought all day that I could make particularly awesome films and write particularly awesome books. Later, without others telling you, you will understand that it is all nonsense. Of course, some people have persisted and succeeded, but I won't be that kind of person anymore.
In another scene, when the cat abuser was being talked, he asked how do you feel, and he answered I am trapped, like the cat. I think this is a sincere answer, and at the same time I was a little surprised that he actually showed it in front of the teachers and parents. Real thoughts. I think of myself, I love to lie, all the time, especially in front of teachers and parents. I also cried and wrote a book of regret at the teaching place, and I was also interviewed by the teacher for in-depth conversations, but I never told the truth. So I have never faced my own problems directly, nor have I received any meaningful guidance from the teacher.
The fat girl fell in love with the teacher, and then committed suicide. I don't know why the fat girl feels like she knows how to drink when I first saw a fat girl. She was actually very positive and optimistic. She was the least weird person in the whole movie, but in the end she died. I think this warns us that in this weird world, you have to be more weird to survive.
Then the second question I think about is why people don’t believe in the happiness they get.
Henry finally sent the girl away. Although he went to see the girl in the last scene, I don't think he would take the girl home again. He has been suspicious of himself. The monologue before his final decision said that he felt that he could not give the girl what he needed, such as a stable home, the identity of a father or husband, education, and so on. In fact, what he said is nothing, and girls don't necessarily need those things. He insisted on sending the girl away. I think it’s because he has been unable to let go of his problems. He believes that everything is temporary until his problems are resolved, and even life is temporary, so he only works as a substitute teacher and lives. The place has no breath of life, and never develops a solid relationship, detachment. But the death of the female student stimulated him. He did not expect that his detachment would bring such great harm to the people around, plus the root of the problem The grandfather/father is dead, he thinks maybe he can put it down and live seriously again.
If I were him, I would definitely send the girl away. I sent it away because I didn't know how to deal with this unexpected incident, even if it was beautiful and happy. She disrupted my daily life, although it brought happiness, but I valued the order being disrupted more. Order is the only source of my sense of security, so I can sacrifice happiness for safety. I am not a hippie anymore.
There is also a small problem for the film, I think the editing is a bit messy. For example, when the cat abuse was found to be very abrupt, there were Henry and the female teacher, Liu Yuling and the old man, and the teacher who had no sense of existence. It is obvious that the director has actually expanded on several characters, but in the end he didn't cut so many in. I actually really want to see all of it in one edition.
This is just the feeling of watching it the first time, and I want to watch this film a second time.
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