"45th Anniversary": There is always a tingling truth behind exquisite happiness

Jamir 2022-04-21 09:03:41

At the beginning of the film, on a crisp morning, Kate (Charlotte Rampling) shows up with her dog, closes with her neighbors, and returns home to discuss her 45th wedding anniversary with Jeff (Tom Courtenay). For the details of Party, I thought it was a warm movie praising the love of the elderly. Just like the Korean movie "I Love You" I watched a few years ago, I had already prepared tissues and planned to release the lacrimal glands.



The result was caught off guard, and the style of painting changed suddenly.

A letter that Jeff received became the fuse and the key to open Pandora's Box. With the news that the body of Jeff's ex-girlfriend was found under the glacier, it led to a series of truths about the past.



On the eve of the 45th anniversary, a time bomb was dropped on Kate's marriage.



If the heroine is a cheerful and straightforward person, then she who loves Jeff is likely to secretly launch a marriage rescue plan.

But what is meaningful is that Kate is an introverted, non-party, sensitive, and independent woman. On the one hand, she will keenly feel Jeff's feelings for his ex-girlfriend, and this cognition makes her fall into an anxiety that is difficult to solve; On the other hand, her feelings for Jeff require her to maintain respect and trust in Jeff. She knows that two people in a marriage need to have reservations, especially the one she invests more in.



Therefore, she first chose to try to understand and understand, and even moved her mind to accompany Jeff to Switzerland.

During this time, Kate and Jeff were rarely framed together.

Kate walks alone in the morning, goes to the supermarket alone, sees the Memorial Day venue alone and manages specific matters.

Jeff fell into the memory of the past, dissatisfied with the status quo, more prone to irritability, and picked up the cigarette that he had quit for many years.



If the story is like this, Kate will naturally become the object of everyone's sympathy.

But in fact, because the ex-girlfriend died unexpectedly while climbing the Alps with Jeff 50 years ago, this background makes the audience can't help but lean towards Jeff when choosing a side.

A relationship that has ended abruptly, a person who has suddenly lost, will always carry great weight. It's not like choosing a white rose and you can't choose a red rose, it's a matter of choice, but without the sudden death of his ex-girlfriend, Jeff wouldn't have chosen such a young man who looks a lot like his ex-girlfriend and is willing to devote himself to marriage and family. Beautiful Kate.



It sounds like Kate's happy 45 years are more of a beautiful lie, an elaborate deception.

Kate and Jeff, from the music they love to listen to, the books they love to read, and the various furnishings and decorations in the home, I am afraid it is difficult to erase the shadow of Jeff's dead ex-girlfriend. Jeff's small attic, which contains Jeff's thoughts of his ex-girlfriend over the long years and his memories that became clearer as he got older.

And, after Kate couldn't help sneaking in once, she found out that the ex-girlfriend and Jeff also had a baby who was too late to be born.

Kate followed Jeff in the middle of the night, Jeff went to the attic, and Kate touched Jeff's shadow with her hands downstairs.


The most heart-wrenching thing was Jeff's confession to Kate at the 45th Anniversary Party.

Probably this was the last straw that overwhelmed Kate's hopes.



Kate's best friend said that Jeff said it well. Kate could only respond with a very complicated wry smile. She knew Jeff's speech, the regrets, the tears, and the lies that penetrated deep into her heart.

While dancing with Jeff, Kate let go of Jeff's hand, the scene stopped at Kate crying, and the movie ended.

The right or wrong choice is always difficult to measure, especially if this choice is placed on the 45th wedding anniversary party.



Time itself may not have any power, nor is it meaningful, but if the value accumulated by time is compared with the length of a person's life, it is like a rope that tugs at a person's hair, and the person's brain hurts. Reminder There is a price to pay for every choice.

Starting from "Gone girl", I always come into contact with some movies that are tentatively called fear of marriage. Most of them deal with heart-wrenching and complicated, but also have a philosophy of life, or a philosophy of marriage. Every time I watch it, I have some inexplicable feelings.

The subject of marriage, self-awareness, cold and harsh wind is better than being too silly and sweet. Marriage is a city or a tomb, going around in circles, probably no one can miss this trip. Let’s take it as a preparatory exercise, and it will be beneficial to open the book.

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  • Clovis 2022-03-21 09:03:22

    The sister films of "Love", there are too many kinds of pain in life, love can dissolve the pain, but also can aggravate the pain; after watching this kind of film, you have to watch how many silly white sweet romance films to ease it. . .

  • Braeden 2022-03-21 09:03:22

    Three and a half. In fact, it is not a question of whether there is enough love, but maybe some people need a good memory or imagination to help him temporarily escape from an imperfect marriage. As the husband's speech said, they have all done things that they regretted in their marriage, and they still stick to it. This kind of feeling is actually far more valuable than an overly glorified memory more than 40 years ago. He came out but she didn't, that's the regret in marriage

45 Years quotes

  • Kate Mercer: Would you have married her?

  • Kate Mercer: You used to love your birdwatching.

    Geoff Mercer: I did, yes.

    Kate Mercer: It's funny how you forget the things in life that make you happy.