Regarding the topic of love, I don't think it is necessary to have a suspense movie, and I have to choose one of the two interpretations to believe. Because love itself is both true and illusory, ambiguous. Love begins with impulse, and in the original state, it should be dominated by emotion, free and free, without any taboos. And the concepts of "single-mindedness" and "long-term", I think, are artificial rules imposed on love. Therefore, in the continuation stage of precipitation and sublimation, love must be maintained by reason. If other temptations appear at this time, they can only be restrained by rational trade-offs, but the fact that temptation itself is a stronger love cannot be changed. It is very difficult to try to prevent the occurrence of new feelings directly by relying on strong love for the original partner. If based on my understanding of love, for the old man, the love for the old lady has entered a stable and dull stage, the ability to stir up ripples in the heart alone, of course, cannot be compared to the ability to suddenly return to the front, distant but within reach And the emotional past. So the willful old man's strong urge to look at his ex-girlfriend will make the old lady extremely disappointed. But the impulse is just an impulse after all, and it cannot last for too long. So the old man went to a travel agency and learned that it was so troublesome to take a look, and his enthusiasm quickly cooled down. I think most people have the experience of making a vow to do something, with enthusiasm at first, but then tossing it aside when the enthusiasm wears off. The old man's obsession with going to Switzerland is also such a driving force.
So of course the old man loves the old lady. It is precisely because I firmly believe in my love that I have a clear conscience, that I can unabashedly immerse myself in the memories of the past, that I can openly talk about my plan to see my girlfriend in front of me, and that I can admit without hesitation that if my ex-girlfriend didn't If something happens, they will get married. But in reality, there are not so many ifs. The old man now loves the old lady with peace of mind, and thinks that she can be as relieved as himself. On the other hand, there is no doubt that the old man also loved his ex-girlfriend deeply, and when the dusty memory is awakened, he can love again with the same excitement as cheating. Perhaps this is the case, and some people can't help but struggle with the question of who the old man loves more. Is the old lady a spare tire? I think that love is so illusory, and I can't even describe the feelings, how to prioritize them. If we can strictly divide love into two parts, emotional and rational, let’s talk about emotion first: maybe when planning to go to Switzerland, the old man loves his ex-girlfriend more, but at the anniversary party, he loves his wife more. The two are not contradictory at all. And speaking rationally, the old man must love the old lady, because he has no choice.
There will also be people who think that the old lady has been deceived in various ways, because from the details of the songs the old man listens to and the books he reads, they feel that the old man remembers his ex-girlfriend in some way. My understanding is that originally love is the epitome of feelings for a period of time. You take your loved ones to see all kinds of scenery, you love the scenery, and you love your loved ones, and enjoy them as part of the years. Later, when I recalled the scenery, whether the memory was the scenery or the people, I couldn't tell if it was mixed together. I only knew that it was a good memory. Even if you miss him, how much do you know that you really miss this person? Or just use people as a carrier of happy memories?
In love, we all want to hear a definite answer: he loves me for real, not on impulse, and she will love me forever and never change her mind. But unfortunately there is no such answer, love is not so simple, and there is no truth.
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