A person's life is to constantly recognize what kind of person he is. We experience more and more people and things, and we gradually complete ourselves. Hey, dear, please touch your heart and learn to get along with yourself. Before loving someone, the most important thing is to love yourself. Do you know yourself? Did you try to understand? Or, do the thoughts of others always affect you?
Even if they were born in the same family, each sibling is an independent individual with a different personality. I'm not sure if a bad guy was born into Mason's family, with mom getting married and having an alcoholic or violent stepfather, it's easy to put a teen on a dead end, but Mason isn't like that , so he grew up in such a chaotic family.
Mason's mother has gone through three marriages. I'm very lucky that the screenwriter let him have a very good biological father on the whole. Maybe it's because of the relationship that we only meet on weekends. There is a lot of lubrication without living together. It's really great to be a dad who doesn't stress at all, just cares about what the children are busy with recently and what they care about.
I am envious! Especially in a scene in the movie, after the mother remarried for the first time, she hadn't seen her father for a long time, so the two children were a little rusty with her father, and the father suddenly stopped the car and told the children, "I don't want to hear it. A very official answer, I want to hear that although I am very good with someone and so, but I hate him recently, or this homework is too abstract, or everything that can be told to my friends can be told to me (talk to me) )." This scene is really cool! It's great to be friends with children, and that's the kind of parent-child relationship I hope to achieve in the future. Dad takes them bowling, chips, baseball games, camping, swimming, and more on the weekends, and it's great!
My dad is a dignified type, and he doesn't care about children or think about children. I only remember that my dad would ride me to and from class on a motorcycle, and then he would smoke by himself, completely ignoring the discomfort of smoking second-hand smoke in the back. I; or occasionally accompany my father to buy meat on the street, and my father will give me the rest of the change. I'm the youngest in our family, my sisters and I all think I'm more favored by my father, but it's just a little bit more, I'm just a little bit more coquettish. But, on the whole, my father really didn't make me feel like a father, maybe only when I was a child. The kind of children who can't rely on their parents for self-reliance will take them for granted as parents, as for education or companionship. , did it really exist in my childhood?
So I envy Mason for having such a great dad who taught them a lot and accompanies them in a lot of activities.
I feel the same way about Mason's sister who only remembers the pictures of her parents arguing and doesn't remember the happy moments when they went camping together! Although Dad Mason was surprised, it was true. This is also what I always tell my friends, I will never quarrel in front of children, I understand how children feel when they see their parents arguing, that was part of my childhood, and I still wonder when I think about it and say it was really true Did I experience it? I still remember how I felt at the time, with fragments of memories embedded in my mind, and I will never forget the current fears in my life, but, thinking about it now, I am also the executioner or the oil bottle that created my mother’s current life. However, I was really too scared, I really didn’t want to lose it, and I really didn’t understand the world of adults, so I was used by my grandma and my father at the beginning, and under the combined effect of my own inner fear, I cried and begged my mother not to leave. If my mother resolutely chose to leave after so many quarrels, I might be happier now, but will I hate my mother for this? I feel that my mother has thrown us away and doesn't want us anymore. Alas, if I were the mother character, how would I make decisions? My own life, and the life of my children, alas, it is really difficult!
Do I have a sense of belonging?
Although her mother remarried twice and both stepfathers were assholes, Mason had a happy childhood. Although his parents were not together or in love, they both loved Mason and his sister deeply. Mason once asked his father if he loves his mother? My sister said he remembered the scene of her parents quarreling, but my father asked my sister if you quarreled with Mason? My sister said yes, so don't you love him?
But I still don't like fighting. They love each other but they don't understand each other, they can't understand each other, there are many misunderstandings and self-righteousness, so they keep arguing, crying, and yelling, and they are really tired.
I was afraid in my heart, afraid that I would subtly and unknowingly become the "adult" I had always hated. Mason was shaved by the first stepfather. In the United States, they treat children as an individual. Respect is the most important thing. They are not yours, they do not belong to you, even if they are your children, they are still an independent individual. But in Asia, parents think that they have the right to decide everything about the child, they can enter the child's room without knocking on the door, they can easily take the child's things, they themselves are a big circle, and the children are the little ones in their big circle. In the circle, they raise children to feed them, educate them, so the children's things are theirs, and they can decide everything. I like what Mason said to his mother crying with a sad face after being shaved: "He shaved my hair without even asking me." Mom said he would communicate with his stepfather. I like their conversations, why should adults shave children's hair on their own accord? Adults are a bunch of self-righteous creatures. I don’t want to become such a creature. I am afraid that I have deep-rooted concepts, and that I am afraid that such a self will educate others, or even accuse others of being righteous. Why in the end?
In the end, the image that struck me was Mom's breakdown. Mum broke down when her son left home for college and said, "This is the worst day of my life. I knew this day would come, except why is it happening now? First I get married, have back to school, get my degree, get my masters, send both my kids off to college. What's next? My own fucking funeral? I just thought it would have been better.”
This is really freaking me out. I can't quite accept mom crying at this stage. But what his mother said is really good, which is probably why I don't think I need to have children so soon, because once I have children, I will take them as the center of my life, and your heart will hang there for at least 20 years . His mother collapsed at the moment of being free, because he has been child-centered since he was young, and now that the child has grown up, he has a lot of his own time to do what he wants to do, but at that moment felt empty and lonely, I Thinking this is a process that every parent goes through, Mason hilariously replied to her mother that you underestimated 40 years, yes, it's not going to die so fucking soon, because she had children so young, so he now You are still young and you can do a lot of things you want to do, which is also good. Does my mother feel the same way when we leave the house one by one to go outside?
I like the conversation above.
To grasp the present, in fact, the present grasps us. This is really a great movie. The director has made it with great care for 12 years, and the actors are also great. I like that there are many detailed behaviors and emotions between people in the film. From that action or that The picture can tell his current mood and what he wants to express. The director is really amazing! I want to go back and watch the director's "Love Is" trilogy!
Written from: 2015-11-8 22:30
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